Grin and Bear It

Grin and Bear It: getting it done, doing what has to be done, just doing it

 Persevere and get it done. George Allen

 I had to pick myself up and get on with it, do it all over again, only even better this time. Sam Walton

 Success seems to be largely a matter of hanging on after others have let go. William Feather

    There are things that must be done. We may not like them, even hate them, and want to avoid them at all costs. It does not matter; they must be done. Life has requirements; not all of them are pleasant. We have to take the good with the bad, the pleasant with the unpleasant. Sometimes we have to grin and bear things.

    For some going to the dentist falls into the grin and bear it realm. We would rather do anything than having to endure the dentist. It may something mundane as cleaning out the gutters, taking the trash out or inviting the in-laws over. There are many things we do not want to do, but must be done. We can whine, moan and groan; nothing changes; the need is still there. We have to suck it up and just do it.  

     There are situations that have more serious connotations and consequences. We sometimes find ourselves having to have interactions with others that make us extremely uncomfortable. If we wreck the car, overdraw the checking account; buy something we should not buy, and other such things we must fess up. These are mess up and fess up issues. Sometimes we have wronged someone. We may have hurt their feelings, took advantage of them or even perhaps lied to them. It requires that we become penitent and ask their forgiveness. The issue will not go away until we do so. Sometimes our child has to be disciplined for something they have done. It may be extremely difficult, but the wrong thing to do is to not discipline them. Occasionally we have to confront others for wrongs they have done to us. It would be easier to say or do nothing. It would be both wrong to them as well as us to ignore that it has happened.

     Visiting someone in the hospital or nursing home, or going to the funeral home to pay our respects, can fall into the very tough to do category. For many of us these things are outside our comfort zone.

     Many such situations and circumstances occur in life requiring us to do things not easy for us to do. There is the temptation to ignore them, procrastinate, or excuse them away. We are less than mature, responsible, and accountable when we fail to step up and do these things. They are part of our adulthood.

Challenge: It is good to be able to forgive and forget. It is not good if you lack fortitude to confront challenges that test your courage or character. Whenever you step up and do difficult things you build character and grow your maturity. Every time you wilt and choose not do uncomfortable tasks you display immaturity or lack of character. Sometimes the more loving and caring thing is to take a stand and do what may be very difficult to do.   


Inaction breeds doubt and fear. Action breeds confidence and courage. If you want to conquer fear, do not sit home and think about it. Go out and get busy. Dale Carnegie  

Spiritual: (NIV)

For God did not give us a spirit of timidity, but a spirit of power, of love and of self-discipline. 2 Timothy 1:7

I will instruct you and teach you in the way you should go; I will counsel you and watch over you. Ps 32:8

For this very reason, make every effort to add to your faith goodness, and to goodness, knowledge. 2 Pt 1:5

God tells us to forgive and forget, to turn our cheek when someone strikes us, and to be willing to give of what we have to help others. Behind these teachings and principals is an underlying commandment to live and act from a spirit of love in all that we say and do. Anything not done in love is probably wrong. Sometimes it is hard to know what to do; we should always be guided by a principal of a loving attitude toward others.

Prayer: Help me to overcome my selfish ways and to learn to have a more loving attitude.

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