Behavior is what a man does, not what he thinks, feels, or believes. Anonymous
Perfect behavior is born of complete indifference. Cesare Pavese
Act the way you’d like to be and soon you’ll be the way you act. George W Crane
If we wanted to give a simple definition to behavior, we might define it as how we act when we are in public. Our mothers and even our fathers expected us to be on our best behavior when we were in public. Our behavior is a reflection of how we were raised, who we are, what it is that is inside us and the nature of our character.
We can be sitting in a restaurant, hospital waiting room or waiting in any kind of line and see broad spectrums of behavior in the people we observe. Any place with lots of people from diverse backgrounds is a tremendous place to observe human behavior at both its best and worst. We often see children that are spoiled brats, teenagers lost in their identity crisis and young adults who are trying to impress everyone around them by their dress, gadgets, and mannerisms. There are middle-agers who never learned how to fit in; and seniors who seem very lonely and lost. Then there are the children who are well-mannered and polite; teenagers who have genuine self-esteem and confidence; middle-agers who are polished with bounce in their step; and the seniors still with twinkles in their eyes. Observing people’s behavior is a good way to get a feel about what is inside them.
Behavior is a very good indication of what is inside other people. Our behavior is an indication of what is inside us and where we are in life and about our sense of well-being. Sometimes we are unaware of our own behavior but we can we assured there are others observing us and perhaps wondering why we behave as we do. Whatever is happening on the outside, whether by us or others, is always a result of what is going on inside.
Two important concepts always to consider are stimulus and response and the conscious and subconscious. The process starts as a stimulus of some sort. Something happens requiring our reaction. We respond either subconsciously or consciously. Ideally our conscious mind is in control and guides how we should respond.
To improve our behavior we should assert more conscious control of thoughts and actions. We need to be ever aware of our shortcomings, weaknesses, and other internal flaws and not allow then to subconsciously and adversely affect our outward behavior. We need to exert conscious control over our thoughts and actions.
Challenge: Behavior is something you must manage. If you do not, you may blindly and subconsciously react to whatever pulls your string or pushes your hot button. You can either act or react to life’s circumstances. Action implies you are in control. Reacting means you are not in control. This is one of those things that require taking control. It is something you consciously chose to do. It will not happen unless you chose to make it happen.
The fruit of righteousness will be peace; the effect of righteousness will be quietness and confidence forever. Isaiah 32:17
Now faith is being sure of what we hope for and certain of what we do not see. Hebrews 11:1
His God instructs him and teaches him the right way. Isaiah 28:26
It could be said that our behavior manifests itself deep within. In our very core are all our imperfections, faults, and flaws. The more problems and issues we have, the more likely these kinds of things are influencing and controlling the kind of person we are and how we behave in the outside world. The one sure cure for such problems and issues is to allow the Master Physician to have access to our inner workings and let him help us.
Prayer: Help me to overcome my imperfections, shortcomings and weaknesses.