If it looks like a duck, walks like a duck and quacks like a duck, then it just may be a duck. Walter Reuther
The real voyage of discovery consists of not in seeking new landscapes but in having new eyes. Marcel Proust
Either you deal with what is the reality, or you can be sure that the reality is going to deal with you. Alex Haley
Why spend so much time complaining about our lot in life? Why not spend less time complaining, open our eyes and ears; roll up our sleeves and go to work? This is how we can do better and move forward again.
“It Is What It Is” expresses the idea that once we find ourselves in certain situations, we should face the truth of the matter and take action accordingly. Things have changed; there is no going back to the way things were. It does no good to dwell in the past. Those things are gone; the world and reality are different now. Losing jobs, not getting promotions, getting divorced; even losing loved ones; as well as all the effects of all the dumb things and bad decisions we have ever made are in the past. Circumstances and our reality have changed.
After getting over the shock, it is pointless and detrimental to continue to whine “Why Me”? Life has changed forever. Why cause distress and mental anguish by wishing things were different? We only wreak hardship on ourselves by getting caught in the “if loop”. It is what it is. Things are what they are. Wondering, wishing and second-guessing are not helpful. It does more harm than good to continue to dwell there.
If there are lessons to be learned, then we should learn them; then get on with Life. We can only affect those things we control and nothing else. We should concentrate on making the most of present and future circumstances. What has happened is permanently recorded and un-erasable. Some people actually become incapacitated by being bogged down in their past lives. It is critical to see the reality of present situations and circumstances and deal with them. Illogically and irrationally wishing things otherwise does nothing to help us.
Let’s imagine being a paid outside consultant called in to provide an assessment of our particular difficulty or circumstance. We must leave our emotions out of it and make decisions based on observable facts. “It Is What It Is” looks at things with reality and truth in mind. Access the situation; make plans; take appropriate action. The more we deal with reality, the more likely it is that we can begin to make some real progress. Our maturity and wisdom allows us to separate our emotions and distorted views of the past from our new and present reality.
Challenge: Repeat to yourself “It Is What It Is”! Repeat it over and over again. It has an aspect that causes you to become more objective, less subjective and emotional. Keep it in mind for those times when you get bogged down inside emotional baggage after undesirable things have happened. Affirm, “It Is What It Is”. Be objective, take out emotions and look at reality and facts. Leave the past behind, deal with the present, move to the future.
Wisdom: There is an objective reality out there, but we view it through the spectacles of our beliefs, attitudes, and values. David G. Myers
In all your ways acknowledge him, and he will make your paths straight. Proverbs 3:6
The salvation of the righteous comes from the Lord; he is their stronghold in times of trouble. Psalm 37:39
If any of you lacks wisdom, he should ask God, who gives generously to all without finding fault, and it will be given to him. James 1:5
One of the unique aspects of humanity is we live in our own personalized universe of false reality. It is different from other’s realities. This raises the question what is “True Reality”? The only true reality is God’s reality. We exist only in his reality. Only as we walk more closely with God, does our ability to see and know his Truth get enhanced. If we truly desire to know truth and see things as they really are, we must ask him to help us.
Prayer: Help me to see the truth in all things. Lead me to do right things and to go in the right direction.