Revenge is the poor delight of little minds. Juvenal
Hate injures the hater not the hated. Peace Pilgrim
Don’t hate, it’s too big a burden to bear. Martin Luther King, Jr
Whoever wishes to harm another person is exhibiting malice in their hearts. This is can be an indication of major character flaws. This means something is wrong and needs remedied. We often wish others malice when we perceive they have done something to us or threaten us. We can have malice in our hearts toward those who have different cultures, religions, or beliefs. Malice not only goes hand in hand with hate, it is a close cousin to prejudice and discrimination. It reveals major issues about our makeup and where we are in our lives.
It is hard to have malice or hate if we have love in our hearts. It is hard to be prejudiced or discriminating if we have a spirit of love. It is important to realize we cannot truly love others if we have not learned to love and accept ourselves. If we have not developed and matured sufficiently, we have major insecurity and inadequacy issues within us. An inability to love and accept ourselves can cause us to project our bad feelings about ourselves into our relationships with others. It is easy for us to feel insecurity and distrust toward others if we feel that way about ourselves. It is hard to have healthy love toward others if we do not feel loved. If we hate ourselves we may hate others. We can project our bad feelings about our self onto someone else. Our actions, attitudes, our inner workings are flawed because we are not grounded by a spirit of love.
We can look at the malevolent actions of others and delve into their inner being to verify this truth. If we examine the psychological profiles of Hitler, Lenin, Stalin, and so many others we see this verified. Those who do bad and malevolent things are unable to love or even like themselves; in many respects they are self-loathing.
In order to be at our best, we need to develop a healthy self image by learning to love and accept ourselves. We will always have problems with our feelings and thoughts about others until we can do so. We can know that we are flawed and imperfect, but we will be able to love and accept ourselves in spite of our shortcomings. When we can do this we can overcome our tendencies toward any malice and then truly love others in healthy ways.
Challenge: Do you ever find yourself feeling malice? This is an alarm that should tell you to examine your motives behind this feeling. What are the root causes that allow you to have these feelings? It is time do some heavy duty soul searching and self-examination. There are self-issues which need addressing. You must get at the heart of this and learn what makes you feel this way. This will be effort very well spent to your betterment.
Wisdom: Distrust all men in whom the impulse to punish is powerful. Friedrich W Nietzsche
Dear friends, since God so loved us, we also ought to love one another. 1 John 4:11
We love because he first loved us. 1 John 4:19
Dear children, let us not love with words or tongue but with actions and in truth. 1 John 3:18
Wherever there is malice, there is an absence of God. Because God is love, there can be no malice in him. This is one of the most important truths in all of the universe. The more we have God’s Holy Spirit guiding and advising us the more our tendencies of feelings or actions toward malice will be minimized or absent in us. Such things will be replaced with love. The more we seek God guidance and direction we will overcome such things.
Prayer: I can love myself because you love me and died for me. Help me to have your love in my heart.