Never: forever, absolutely not going to happen, zero possibility, a very long time, gone and not to come back again, not ever, at no time, absolutely not

Lost time is never found again. Benjamin Franklin

Never, never, never give up. Winston Churchill

A person who never made a mistake never tried anything new. Albert Einstein  

    Never is forever. By definition never is an absolute; it makes no provision for any possibility. Very often, the concept of never carries with it negative connotations. We should be very careful in how we use “never” and the lasting impact it may have. It may be quite harmful to our well-being and our relationships.

     We use “never” in our daily language without even thinking about what we are saying. More times than not, the intent is not to say that something will not or cannot ever happen; it is meant to convey unlikely, difficult, or odds being against it. We have said such things as “I will never talk to that person again;” “I will never go back there again;” or “I will never forgive you.” These are absolute statements. Sometimes by making such statements we have backed ourselves into a corner. We may live to regret what is said and there may a price we will have to pay for saying it. It is wise to avoid making such statements.

     The wise are careful and deliberate in what they say and mean. They do not go overboard or too far in making their points. Most of the time, it is a bad idea to burn our bridges behind us. It is a good idea to always try to leave a little wiggle room. A good thing to remember and practice is to never say “never;” it will save a lot of headaches, embarrassments, and having to eat crow.

    There is a positive side to the concept of never. It can be used to foster determination and perseverance. Believing in never quitting or in never giving up can give the little extra that may see us through obstacles and disappointments. It empowers us to think in terms of no retreat or surrender. It supports the idea of paying the price whatever it may be. This reminds us of such individuals as Martin Luther King, Jr., Mahatma Gandhi and Thomas Edison. Quitting was not a concept that any of them embraced. They turned the idea of never around. The old way or the status quo was never acceptable to them.  Quitting or giving up was never going to happen.

    The lesson to be learned is to be very careful and cautious in how we think and use never.  Never use it carelessly and only use it to motivate and inspire.

Challenge: Never say “never,” should be something that reminds you to be careful in what you say and what you really mean. It should help you to be more articulate and careful with your words. Do not say things that you may later regret. Say what you mean and mean what you say. Be aware that you can use the concept of never to motive and inspire you. If something is really worthwhile, never quit, persevere through until you are victorious.  

Wisdom: Winners never quit and quitters never win. Vince Lombardi  

Spiritual: (NIV)

Do not be quickly provoked in your spirit, for anger resides in the lap of fools. Ecclesiastes 7:9

A man’s wisdom gives him patience; it is to his glory to overlook an offense. Proverbs 19:11

You need to persevere so that when you have done the will of God, you will receive what he has promised. Hebrews 10:36

We should be very careful about the concept of never. We should never forget that God is sovereign and controls time and everything within it. In our limited capacities and abilities we do not know what is going to happen tomorrow or much less a year or many years from now. In our foolishness and arrogance we get carried away with our sense of supremacy and power. The wise look to God and trust him. It makes life so much easier.

 Prayer: Help me to be more patient, calm and perseverant. May my faith and confidence continue to grow.

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