Self-Talk

Self-Talk:inner dialogue with ourselves; can be used for constructive or destructive purposes

Self-suggestion makes you master of yourself. W Clement Stone

The more man meditates upon good thoughts, the better will be his world and the world at large. Confucius

The inner speech, your thoughts, can cause you to be rich or poor, loved or unloved, happy or unhappy, attractive or unattractive, powerful or weak. Ralph Charell

     Most of us engage in self-talk. It is as if there is more than one person who lives inside us. There are two parts to us. There is our conscious, physical self that communicates to the world at large. There is the self that is internal and engages in self-talk only with us. Our two sides must coexist, ideally in an amiable manner.

   These two selves communicate with each other at all times. Sometimes, they are very quiet and we are unaware of their inner dialogue; at other times their exchanges are rather obvious and they get our attention.  It can be like the image we have of a little devil on one shoulder and a little angel on the other, each one trying to get us to listen to them. Sometimes self-talk entails and includes our conscience. It tries to speak to us when we are facing temptations. We would normally consider it to be a good and beneficial voice. Sometimes we ignore it and listen to the little devil who has no conscience. Our self-talk should be used encourage us, helping us to weigh things, and make better more thought-out decisions.

   We often find ourselves in situations that are new to us, where we may be uncomfortable and fearful. We tend to avoid anything that makes us uncomfortable; especially, in situations where we are unclear as to what we should do. Our self-talk can be a good and useful thing. It can help us in our decision making and encourages us to take action. It helps to motivate us and gives us the discipline to do something that often takes out of our comfort zone. It is good for us to have an inner ally that is always on alert and stays ready to encourage us.

    ‘Self-talk’ can be harmful. It can increase our fear, belittle us and take away our confidence. This type of self-talk should be avoided or ignored. Negative self-talk is very detrimental and must be controlled if we are to be growth oriented and proactive.

    We should always be aware of the quality of our self-talk. If harmful, we need to invest time and effort into changing it from the negative to the positive. All of this originates from our self-image and issues dealing with self-esteem, self-worth, and self-love. It is very hard to have positive self-talk, if we have a negative self-image.

Challenge:  Self-talk is directly influenced by how we feel about ourselves. If we feel good about ourselves, our self-talk will be positive and helpful. If not, we likely have internal dialogue problems and a poor self-image. It may be time well spent to review the nature of your self-talk. Equip yourself with a new and improved self-image. It is important to learn to love yourself in a healthy and progressive way. A good self-image will help you to improve the quality of your self-talk.    

Wisdom: No man can produce great things who is not thoroughly sincere in dealing with himself.  J R Lowell

Spiritual: (NIV)

If any of you lack wisdom, let him ask of God, who gives to all liberally and without reproach, and it will be given to him.  James 1:5

Commit your works to the Lord, and your thoughts will be established.  Proverbs 16:3

And whatever things you ask in prayer, believing, you will receive.  Matthew 7:7,8

Self-talk is a powerful force with us. It can cause us major harm or it can help us to move our lives progressively forward. The more we walk with God, the more the Holy Spirit will empower us and influence our self-talk to help us. We will be more empowered to live up to our capabilities. We will grow stronger and stronger and will have the faith and confidence to continue to move forward. Our self-talk with inspire and encourage us.             

Prayer:  Help me to overcome my weaker self and become the self you want me to be.                             

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