Pleasing Others

Pleasing Others:  doing for others, helping them get what they want or need

Only a life lived for others is a life worthwhile. Einstein                                                                                                        

Wherever a man turns he can find someone who needs him.  ~Albert Schweitzer

Always try to do something for the other fellow and you will be agreeably surprised how things come your way – how many pleasing things are done for you. Claude M Bristol  

   Many of our days consist in meeting, exceeding, or not meeting the needs of others while we are primarily concentrating on meeting our own needs. When our needs are met and especially when they are exceeded, it creates satisfaction and even thankfulness. When needs or expectations are not met, it causes disappointment and even anger. Having expectations met is very important.

    Depending upon circumstances, the more we invest into high expectations, the more likely the outcome will have significant emotional impact. The greater our anticipation, the more let down we can experience if we are disappointed. We remember let downs; job offers that never came, the turned down proposal, those that disappointed us, the venture that proved unsuccessful. Failed expectations can leave us feeling low and blue. We also remember expectations that were rewarded; the accepted proposal, job offers, risks that paid off, a child being born; even our favorite team winning. There is nothing like someone who really comes through for us. There are few highs any higher or lows any lower as those brought on by what happened to our expectations.

     Past experiences should remind us how we felt when our expectations were met and how we felt when they were not. We should remember how it hurt when we were let down. These memories should inspire us to want to meet or exceed the expectation others have of us. We have had opportunities to make some ones’ day, helping them when they needed us, making them feel important, even loved and appreciated. How many times have we failed to deliver? Sometimes all it takes is something very little, a small inconvenience, but it was something very important to them. We never know how what we do or do not do may impact the lives of others.

     We are told that it is better to give than to receive and that the little things we do for others add up to be big things. It is important to be more mindful of those who are counting on us, those who have expectations of us. With a little time and effort we can do something for them to help them feel loved and appreciated. In the process of meeting the expectations of others, we may end up feeling rather good about ourselves. After all, we need to have higher expectations for ourselves as well. We should meet or exceed our own expectations.

 Challenge: Do you believe in the Golden Rule, going the extra mile and in helping to make the world a little better? Is your self esteem and self concept strong enough that you can give of yourself more than you must have others giving to you? Are you secure enough as a person that seeing others smile and feel good because of something you did makes you feel good and warm inside? These are things you should expect or yourself.

 Wisdom: Happiness cannot come from without. It must come from within. It is not what we see and touch or that which others do for us which makes us happy; it is that which we think and feel and do, first for the other fellow and then for ourselves. Helen Keller

 

Spiritual: (NIV)

The fruit of righteousness will be peace; the effect of righteousness will be quietness and confidence forever. Isaiah 32:17

 But seek first his kingdom and his righteousness, and all these things will be given to you as well. Matt. 6:33

 Tell the righteous it will be will with them, for they will enjoy the fruit of their deeds. Isaiah 3:10

 The Bible gives many teachings and examples that life should be filled with service and care for others. “It’s all about me” is not compatible with what God is trying to say to us. The more we give, the more we get. The more we bless others, the more blessings we will receive. The more we are thankful for what we have, the more we will be blessed with more. Meeting or exceeding the expectations of others is a good philosophy to have.

 Prayer: Help me to overcome my selfish ways and to learn to have a more giving and loving attitude.                                         

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