Conceal a flaw, and the world will imagine the worst. Marcus Aurelius
Life’s challenges are not supposed to paralyze you; they’re supposed to help you discover who you are. Bernice J Reagon
If we took time and sat down and made a list of our faults, flaws and imperfections what would it look like? If we asked one or more friends to make a similar list for us, what would their list look like? How might our friend’s list differ from our own? If we were to sit down and review the lists, looking at all our imperfections, what would our attitude be after seeing all that is wrong with us? Could we handle this truth?
If we are able to acknowledge our faults, flaws and imperfections is a positive sign and puts us in position to do something about them. On the other hand, if we deny, dispute, or ignore our shortcomings we have that much further to go. How do we feel about those things listed by our friend that was not on our own list? How sensitive are we to what they see? The more defensive, hostile and angry we may be, the more likely it is that we have closed our eyes to and do not want to acknowledge the truth about our faults, flaws and imperfections.
If our friend is a true friend, they are not trying to hurt us; on the contrary they care, and are trying to point us in the right direction. If we ignore or deny we have a problem, it is not likely we will do anything to correct or improve. It is so vitally important that we become honest with ourselves. The first step to problem solving is to realize that there is a problem. It is said that this realization is “half the battle”.
Having open-mindedness that allows us to recognize and admit weaknesses and other issues is significant. It puts us in position to take positive steps. We are halfway to solving or at least to making progress. If we continue to deny, who are we kidding, we are not likely to make any progress. It is like the ostrich who buries its head in the sand to avoid its circumstances, or the tortoise retreating to the safety of its shell to avoid all threats.
We should seek to know, find out, and admit to shortcomings. It is then and only then that we are in a position to make real and significant progress. Knowing and realizing the truth is the first step to doing better.
Challenge: A good place to start is asking yourself the following question: “Can I really open my eyes and my mind to knowing and accepting the truth about myself”? If your answer is “yes”, then you can handle the truth and can make significant progress in becoming a better “you”. You can become the person you would like to become. If your answer is “no”, you are not ready to make any progress. You will likely continue to be the same.
Wisdom: If you put yourself in a position where you have to stretch outside your comfort zone, then you are forced to expand your consciousness. Les Brown
Be strong and take heart, all you who hope in the Lord. Psalm 31:24
Trust in the Lord with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding. In all your ways acknowledge him, and he will make your paths straight. Proverbs 3:5, 6
If you remain in me and my words remain in you, ask whatever you wish, and it will be given you. John 15:7
As we grow closer to God, he will give us the strength and insight to increasingly see ourselves as we really are. We will know truths about ourselves and see our faults and flaws as we never saw them before. Instead of trying to ignore them and look the other way, we will embrace them and start working to improve them. God will enable us to do this. As we grow in him, we will start becoming a better person; the person we were meant to be.
Prayer: Help me to see myself as I really am. Give me the strength to become the person I can and should be.