Child, Parent and Adult

Having fun and being carefree; monitoring and nurturing ourselves, being responsible and accountable in our actions; properly balanced between all three

In every real man a child is hidden that wants to play. Friedrich Nietzsche

The secret of genius is to carry the spirit of the child into old age, which means never losing your enthusiasm.Aldous Huxley

Acting childish seems to come naturally, but acting like an adult, no matter how old we are, just doesn’t come easy to us.  Edith Allen  

  As adults we should have three different natures: We need to know and experience our fair share of fun just as we did as children; there is ongoing need to monitor, manage and supervise ourselves just as our parents watched over us; and there is the need for acting as an adult; behaving in a mature and responsible manner.  

    To be balanced and mentally healthy requires experiencing and participating in all three roles. The better we do this, the more well-balanced and happier we are likely to be. The poorer we do, the more likely we will be maladjusted and have numerous self-issues. Some of us have a tendency to act in the wrong manner at the wrong time. We do not always behave as we should. As we grow and mature, we should get better at discerning those times when we are acting like an undisciplined child that needs attention. We must call our self down just as our parents would, correct our attitude and behavior and start acting like the mature adult we are supposed to be.  

     Some of us are too childlike; having to get our own way, being overly selfish, having temper tantrums and engaging in name calling. Children act this way. We are supposed to have matured beyond child-like behavior. We no longer have parents monitoring and managing our behavior. We are now responsible for our actions. Sometimes we need to correct, counsel and admonish our bad behavior. We will also always need unconditional love and encouragement and must learn to do this for ourselves to be well-balanced and mentally healthy.

     Some of us forget to let loose and have fun. “All work and no play makes Jack a dull boy” advocates a good balance between work and play. We do need things in our life that provide fun and enjoyment. There is a need to tap into this fun aspect of childhood. We do have times in life when we need to let loose and let our hair down.

     It is important for us to have the proper balance between acting as a child, parent and adult. This is necessary for us to fully function and for having our act together. There are times when we need to be childlike; when we need to parent ourselves; and when we need to act as an adult and do what adults are supposed to do.

Challenge: To be balanced in all three roles is something that will serve you well. Be aware of any tendency to act as an undisciplined child. Your parenting skills should kick in and help you to take charge of yourself and act more appropriately. Proactively try to have the type of fun you had as a child. This is healthy and therapeutic. Be aware of your thoughts and behaviors at all times. Have childlike fun; act like an adult and be your own parent.

Wisdom: The day the child realizes that all adults are imperfect, he becomes an adolescent; the day he forgives them, he becomes an adult; the day he forgives himself, he becomes wise.Alden Nowlan   

Spiritual: (NIV)

If any of you lacks wisdom, he should ask God, who gives generously to all without finding fault, and it will be given to him. James 1:5

The fear of the Lord is the beginning of knowledge: but fools despise wisdom and instruction. Proverbs 1:7

I will instruct you and teach you in the way you should go; I will counsel you and watch over you. Ps 32:8

All of us are a child of God. He is our Heavenly Father. It is his desire that we experience life, grow, learn, and become all that we can become. We will always be his child. He wants us to grow and mature, and to be proud of us just like our earthly parents. As our parent he does holds us accountable and responsible. He expects us to behave, follow the rules, care for and love others; and to use or lives for something meaningful and worthwhile.

Prayer: Help me to put away my childish ways and to become what you designed me to be.                                          


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