He, who angers you, controls you. Elizabeth Kenny
Those who are at war with others are seldom at peace with themselves. Author Unknown.
For every minute you remain angry, you give up sixty seconds of peace of mind. Ralph Waldo Emerson.
Many fall prey to Kicking the Cat Syndrome. We get “chewed out” at work, have an argument with a loved one or have some other confrontation that gets us “hot under the collar”. We boil, fume and cannot let it go. The incident becomes part of a chain reaction; we take out our anger or frustration; whatever it is we are feeling on the next person who comes along. We cause them to get upset, and they pass it on to the next victim. It snowballs and goes on until the last person goes home, sees the cat and in frustration, lashes out and kicks it. There was no one else to pass it on to. The cat was the last victim, an innocent bystander.
If we could observe ourselves and others participating in Kicking the Cat Syndrome as it occurs on a regular and routine basis, we would be amazed and saddened how helpless, fickle, and unintelligent we are. How idiotic it must appear as we allow ourselves to become part of such a ridiculous and wasteful activity. If we could only observe how weak, susceptible and easily upset and angered so many people are prone to be? How much waste, hurt feelings and weakened relationships occur as a result of so many people so easily falling prey? How many times are we responsible for maintaining the chain? How often are we mature enough to stop it?
We are always responsible for how we respond to everything that happens to us. Our irresponsible side is susceptible to allowing something to get to us and then compels us to take out our anger or frustration on someone else. The mature and responsible side is very sensitive to what it allows to sink in and affect us. We take time, think and process through things that tend to get us upset. We chew on them, think them over, and even sleep on them if necessary. We resist allowing others to pull our chains or push our emotional hot buttons.
We should be on high alert at all times. Every day has issues, nuisances and problems that can get us upset, fuming and feeling down and out. There is no shortage of things that can cause us to lose our cool. We must consciously be in control of how we respond to all those things that sometimes get us riled up.
Challenge: How often do you find yourself kicking the cat? Do you easily have your chain pulled or your hot buttons pushed to get your all hot and bothered? How often do you find yourself taking out your frustrations on those you love and care for? It does not have to be that way. It is something you can change. It takes being more disciplined and alert to what triggers your emotional responses. Resist! It is a choice you must choose to make.
Wisdom: We have no more right to put our discordant states of mind into the lives of those around us and rob them of their sunshine and brightness then we have to enter their houses and steal their silverware. Julia Seton
A quick tempered man does foolish things. Proverbs 14:17
A hot-tempered man stirs up dissension, but a patient man calms a quarrel. Proverbs 15:18
A man’s wisdom gives him patience; it is to his glory to overlook an offense. Proverbs 19:11
It is our lower and unpolished side that allows us to participate in such things as kicking the cat. It is our worldly and unspiritual nature that easily gives in to such things. These are the things we should choose against. If we seek the ways of God and allow our spiritual nature to grow and develop we will become increasingly empowered and enabled to overcome the ways of the world. We will have what it takes to avoid kicking the cat.
Prayer: Help me to reach out and help others instead of passing on to them my bad thoughts and actions.