Pomposity

Inflated self-importance, arrogance, overconfidence, conceit

When the game is over, the king and the pawn go into the same box. Italian proverb  

Hot air expands, and serious pompous attitude is the inflation of choice of those lacking substance. Vanna Bonta

Take events in your life seriously, take work seriously, but don’t take yourself seriously, or you’ll become affected, pompous and boring. Shelley Duvall

  We all know people who are arrogant, conceited and condescending. They suffer from a compulsion to appear high and mighty. A highfalutin word that describes this condition is pomposity. The sound of it creates an image of someone who is puffed up, full of self importance, and likely to hold themselves in high esteem. As soon as we visualize this, it creates distaste and displeasure. We are greatly turned off by pomposity.

     There is no shortage of pompous people. They are so full of hot air, that it would seem they could levitate and float about much as a hot air balloons are able to do. Another analogy of pomposity is to consider the image of an iceberg. It is an iceberg of self-deceit; what appears on the surface is opposite of that which lies underneath. On the surface, they try to portray themselves as wonderful, enviable and deserving of adulation. The more lacking they are inside, the harder they cover up on the outside. If they could see really themselves, the part that is above the water line and that which lies below; they might realize the image they are trying to portray is only an illusion. They more pompous they appear, the more lacking and deficient they truly are. It is a reverse correlation. The more glitter and gold on the surface, the more likely they are covering up what lies inside. They are lying to themselves as much as they are lying to those around them; trying to impress everyone as to their deserved importance. The pompous love the limelight; attracted to it much as a moth is to light shining in the darkness. The pompous are not happy; not liking what lies beneath their surface. This motivates them to appear as someone different than they are; performing and acting a role that is not who they really are.

      We live in a world where many puff themselves up. There is great competition to see who is most important and worthy of praise. It is best to see through these performances and be aware that what appears on the surface is likely an illusion.  If we are put off by self importance and arrogance, we have good reason to avoid being pompous. Humility and modesty is more likely to win friends and influence people. We should have the honesty and the courage to be our true selves.

Challenge: If you are unsure whether you suffer from too much self importance, be sure to ask your friends and loved ones. They will tell you the truth. If you are puffed up, those around you will be very aware of it. They have to tolerate you. You will not find happiness and well-being in living such an illusion. Commit to becoming and presenting your true self. Put the time and effort into become a better version of who you already are.

Wisdom: Disciplining yourself to do what you know is right and importance, although difficult, is the highroad to pride, self-esteem, and personal satisfaction.  Margaret Thatcher

Spiritual: (NIV)

And whosoever will be chief among you, let him be your servant: Matthew 20:27

Humility and the fear of the Lord bring wealth and honor and life. Proverbs 22:4

Professing themselves to be wise, they became fools. Romans 1:22

The proud, conceited, egotistical, arrogant, self-important and all such personality types are trying to cover up and mask the emptiness that really exists within. They do not like who they are and try so hard to be different. They are doing nothing but spinning their wheels. Many spend their entire lives trying to cover up who they really are. The solution to such problems is to allow God to love us and to teach us how to love ourselves.

Prayer: Help me to learn to love myself in a healthy way. Help me to strive to become a better me.                                         

 

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