o the thing you fear and the death of fear is certain. Ralph W Emerson
The best way to confront your fears is to stop avoiding the situation you’re most afraid of. David Burns
If you do not come face to face with your fears, you will come to find yourself always running away from them. Anonymous
The courage to face fear is a significant weakness for nearly everyone. We may smile as we remember the fears of childhood; fear of the dark, monsters under the bed, and things that go “bump” in the night. These fears were left behind as we grew and developed into adulthood. It was part of our maturation process. It is easy for us to admit that childhood fears are imaginary. How do we feel about our adulthood fears?
Children do have unfounded and irrational fears. Adults have their own assortment of fears that are just as irrational. How many opportunities do we miss because we allow monsters to get in our way? What is it that we fear? Is it death, failure, embarrassment, or rejection? What is it? Why do we let it exist? Most fears are unfounded. Fearing failure, rejection and embarrassment are but a few of the reasons we cower and are afraid to step forward. There is actually little difference between our adult fears and children’s fear of the dark.
As children our parents tried to help us to face and take on our fears. As adults, we must have the courage to act as our own parent. There are no other others to do this for us. It is something that adults must do to reach their potential. All of us have had some success at facing a fear, mustering the needed courage to go forward, taking a step and then overcoming it. We overcame what we feared. In hindsight we can look back and may realize that this particular fear was unfounded in the first place. Why did we ever let it hold us back?
Most fear is irrational and does not warrant the time and attention we give it. We have to learn to see our fears for what they are. They exist because we create them. Adults should be able to face their fears. Even if we fail to totally accomplish a goal; overcoming the fear that gets in the way, becomes a tremendous victory. We face our fear and we triumph. Failure does not occur until we have given up or failed to try in the first place. Learning to face fear needs to become one of our greatest strengths. The reward for doing so will be to acquire a success attitude and being increasingly equipped with more confidence for successful living.
Challenge: Be courageous, think and use reasoning to face your fear. “What is the worst that can happen?” “Sink or swim” and “Do it now” empowers and encourages action. Be prepared to take a step forward and confront your fear. You may not achieve all the success you want, but, at the very least you will be reminded there are no more monsters hiding under your bed. You will develop the courage to try, try and then try again.
Wisdom: You gain strength, courage, and confidence by every experience in which you really stop to look fear in the face. The danger lies in refusing to face the fear, in not daring to come to grips with it. You must make yourself succeed every time. You must do the thing you think you cannot do. Eleanor Roosevelt
For God hath not given us the spirit of fear; but of power, and of love, and of a sound mind. 2 Timothy 1:7
In God I have put my trust; I will not be afraid of what man can do unto me. Psalm 56:11
We live by faith, not by sight. 2 Corinthians 5:27
With God as our heavenly Father whom and what should we fear? Is there anything bigger than God? He will not allow monsters to harm us. He is our protector and benefactor. As we gain confidence and trust in him, we will overcome more and more fear. As we grow in our faith, we will start taking bigger steps forward. We will be able to jump into the water knowing that he is there to prevent us from drowning.
Prayer: Help me to have the faith and the courage to overcome my fears.