Blame Game

Placing responsibility on someone else or something else rather than one’s self.

The fault dear Brutus, is not in our stars, but in ourselves.  William Shakespeare

It is no use to blame the looking glass if your face is awry.  Nikolai Gogol

Do not blame anybody for your mistakes and failures.  Bernard Baruch


    The immature and irresponsible blame things on others instead of accepting responsibility for their own actions. It is a major character flaw to play the “blame game”. Many of us are looking elsewhere as the reason for our shortcomings, weaknesses, mistakes and failures. We have problems accepting personal responsibility for our present circumstances; we need someone or something to blame.

     Our parents are to blame, our background, schools, neighborhoods, the government, a political party, the President, and so on. We project blame at every opportunity, but seldom at ourselves.

    We receive lots of help in this blame game. There are many role models; the media, politicians and special interest groups do not hesitate to blame. Globally many of the world’s issues and problems are blamed on the United States. Some blame the 911 attack on us. We are responsible for global warming, the HIV virus, hunger, refugee camps, ethnic cleansing, and a long list of global issues.

     It is human nature to blame our plight on anything but ourselves. Flip Wilson, the comedian, was famous for his line, “the devil made me do it.” If we are to rise above primitive human nature, we must accept responsibility and accountability for what we do or do not do with our lives. We will not advance past mediocrity unless we accept responsibility for where we are and where we are presently headed. As parents, it is always heart-warming to see our children accept personal responsibility.  As adults, we must look inwardly and objectively, to insure we are accepting personal responsibility. Mature adults hold themselves accountable. They do not blame parents or anyone else for their problems. We cannot go on blaming our parents or anything else for our shortcomings. Blame is wasteful and accomplishes nothing. If we must blame, we must look in the mirror.

     We should be aware of the root causes of our weakness and shortcomings. Instead of wasting time and effort blaming, we should take corrective actions to improve and grow through them. The goal should be to always learn from mistakes, to utilize the experience and knowledge from everything that happens and to become a “new and improved” version of ourselves. When we make mistakes, we should be mature and accept responsibility. Imagine how much better this world would be if we ‘fessed up’ to our shortcomings. It takes a strong and mature individual to accept total responsibility.

Challenge:  Do you play the Blame Game? Who do you blame for the negative things in your life? It is time to see the futility of blame. Stop being the victim and become the victor. Take charge. Make a list of the things you tend to blame someone or something else for. After you have made this list, affirm that you are now accepting all responsibility from this point on. Let go of the blame. Hold yourself accountable. Move on to more success.

Wisdom: All blame is a waste of time. No matter how much fault you find with another, and regardless of how much you blame him, it will not change you.  Wayne Dyer  

Spiritual: (NIV)  

I will instruct you and teach you in the way you should go; I will counsel you and watch over you. Ps. 32:8

If we confess our sins, he is faithful and just and will forgive us our sins and purify us from all unrighteousness. 1 John 1:9

I can do all things through Christ who gives me strength. Philippians 4:13


In order to grow spiritually, we must quit blaming others and become accountable. Our maturity is dependent upon our accepting responsibility. We are also responsible for our spiritual lives. Only we can determine to have a “right” relationship with God. No one can do this for us. It is something each person must come to grips with and ask God for an increased presence in their lives. God’s will help us to hold ourselves accountable. 


Prayer:  Help me to know myself. Help me to overcome myself. Help me to become what you want me to be.                         


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