Don’t hope for something cause it’s hopeless, wait for it to come on its own time. Alicia Figgs
No man can lose what he never had. Izaak Walton
Sometimes it takes someone who loves us to tell us that something is a lost cause. Randall Burkhalter
The concept of a “lost cause” is philosophically tough for many of us to embrace. Some people come from a mold where admitting defeat is not acceptable. We have been taught to never give up. “It’s not over until it’s over”. There are many admonitions against ever giving up.
Contrary to all this wise and well-intended advice, there are things that should be considered as lost causes. Even though it is said that we should never give up or quit if something is worth pursuing, there are situations where “giving up” is the best choice. The difficulty is in knowing when this is the case. What may be a lost cause for one may not be lost for another. Too many people give up too easily. Sometimes we are only an “inch” away from success. However, sometimes the “costs” of going on against the improbability of success are so great, the proper choice is to take on something new or to move forward.
“Life happens” as we go down certain paths. Options and choices may no longer be there. Things are taken away or change as we know them. Life’s certainties turn into uncertainties and are gone. A part of what has been our life is over; we need to move on. Divorce, broken relationships, job loss, lost loved ones, failed ventures, failed health, and other such events often create “lost causes” in our life. The heart wrenching decision to remove life support when a loved one’s recovery is hopeless is a good example of accepting a lost cause. We may need to let them go and die in dignity.
There are always some examples where someone turned a seemingly “lost” causes into success. It is so hard to give up on things that seem so important. Sometimes it must be done; we are better off to determine something is “lost”, letting it go, and going down a different path. Often it is really hard for us to see these things without help and advice of loved ones and close friends. “Maybe we cannot see the forest for the trees”.
We should always keep in mind the “big picture”. A lost cause admitted to and left behind, may only be a temporary defeat. It should be replaced with something new and worthy. We are never defeated and have not lost until we fail to get back up and try again.
Challenge: Is there something in your life that should be declared a “Lost Cause”? Is it difficult to let it go? Lost causes are harmful to long term well-being. Take a deep breath; summon all the courage you can muster, and let your lost causes go. You may need others to help you get through this. New possibilities, adventures, and unwritten chapters are waiting for you. Replace “Lost Causes” with new and worthwhile causes.
Wisdom: To bear defeat with dignity, to accept criticism with poise, to receive honors with humility — these are marks of maturity and graciousness. William A Ward
For God did not give us a spirit of timidity, but a spirit of power, of love and of self-discipline. 2 Timothy 1:7
Now faith is being sure of what we hope for and certain of what we do not see. Hebrews 11:1
A righteous man may have many troubles, but the Lord delivers him from them all. Psalm 34:19
We only have limited knowledge of what life is truly all about. God has perfect knowledge and has a plan for our lives. His plan is better than our plan. In our weakness, we cling to worldly things because we fear what we do not know. We forget we have a Heavenly Father. He has us in his hands, is always watching out for us and wants only the best for us. Sometimes we have to let go and trust that he has our best interest at heart. This is faith.
Prayer: Help me to know your will in my life, when to let something go and when to continue to pursue it.