Respect yourself and others will respect you. Confucius
Big egos are big shields for lots of empty space. Diana Black
Here is the egotist’s code: everything for himself, nothing for others. Joseph Sanial-Dubay
Our ego is the part of us that in some ways could be called our theatrical version. It is the “us” we subconsciously create and then publish for everyone to see. It may or may not totally be the person we really are, but it is the person we want others to think we are. It tells much about us.
Some of us do not see really see how our egos come across; we “cannot see the forest for the trees”. Others can see us better than see ourselves. Somehow we have blind-spots to our own behavior. Ideally, we could be an objective third party (get outside ourselves) and observe our egos in action; or be like our parents and observe the child in us and how it behaves. A controlled, well-acting, well-mannered ego is desirable. An inflated, temperamental, child-like, conceited, bloated ego is not. We all know individuals who have “problem” egos. Some have too much and others have little or no ego at all.
Maybe, in the future, there will be some type of computer chip that can be implanted. It would provide on-going data collection of the biological and mental processes going on within us. A particularly valuable diagnostic would be the ego-meter. Its purpose would be to monitor our ego-health. It would be programmed with known standards as to what constitutes a good and healthy ego. The monitoring and analyzing of our ego would be extremely useful. Daily or weekly, we would hook up to our computer and run the ego-meter diagnostic. This would provide us substantive feedback. We would use these insights to improve, work on problem issues, and to grow and develop into better versions of ourselves.
A layman’s approach to the psychology of the “self” or the “ego” indicates that it is instinctive in nature and tries to help us cope on a day to day basis. It will cover up and improvise for weakness and shortcomings. Our egos try very hard to equip us to go out in the world and “put on a happy face”. It is a “production” or a manifestation of how our subconscious minds tries to put together all of our pieces of the puzzle. The better the pieces, the better will be the finished product. Any problem we may have with being egotistical has at its root cause problems with issues of the self.
Challenge: You should be aware of the nature of your ego. Spend time in self-evaluation and identify the good and bad aspects of your ego. Accentuate the good and minimize the bad. Ask your friends to characterize your ego to you. This takes intentional fortitude. If you want to grow, you need to know. Stand in front of a mirror and get to know yourself. Sometime the truth hurts. Armed with the truth, you can become a better you.
Wisdom: Ego has a voracious appetite, the more you feed it, the hungrier it gets. Nathaniel Bronner, Jr.
If any of you lacks wisdom, he should ask God, who gives generously to all without finding fault, and it will be given to him. James 1:5
For God did not give us a spirit of timidity, but a spirit of power, of love and of self-discipline. 2 Timothy 1:7
But seek first his kingdom and his righteousness, and all these things will be given to you as well. Matt. 6:33
God is the only one who truly knows us. We can try to hide from ourselves as well as others, but we cannot hide from him. He knows us from top to bottom. If we really want to know the truth, we can ask him. If we want to become a better person, we must ask him for help. His Holy Spirit will reveal the truth to us and will help us to grow. The more we grow, the more we can handle more truth. He truly loves us and will help us.
Prayer: Help me to be able to monitor and control my ego. Help me to be humble and kind to others.