You have in yourself all the faults which you scorn in others. Will Durant
The faultfinder will find faults even in Paradise. Henry D Thoureau
It is far better to know our weaknesses and failings than to point out those of others. Jawaharial Nehru
We all too good at finding faults in others while not acknowledging our own. The faults we so readily point out in others are often the same faults we possess. This is especially true with loved ones and close friends. We tend to despise in others what we really dislike and despise in ourselves. We readily see weaknesses in others while we have blinders to our own shortcomings. It is self-deception when we are pre-occupied with others weaknesses while trying to avoid the reality of our own. The old adage that says people who live in glass houses should not throw stones. We certainly should not be condemning things in others we are guilty of ourselves.
Some of us are so focused on fault-finding that we fail to acknowledge the desirable traits and qualities in those around us. It is easier to zero in on the undesirable than it is to focus on the good and desirable. It is far easier to complain than it is to pay a compliment or to provide praise. Instead of purposely lifting someone up, we put our efforts into bringing them down.
When we really do not like what we see in ourselves we “cover up” the problem by looking for faults we can find in others. This is twisted, unhealthy, and counter-productive. It does nothing for us, actually hurts us, and causes us to ignore our own faults. Instead of honestly trying to improve ourselves, we ignore the home front, and focus our attention to other’s backyards. It is the ultimate in hypocrisy to criticize others when we are so full of our own faults. Our politicians seem to be good examples of this. Whenever our motives are impure and faulty, we are in dangerous territory when we start passing judgment on others. We should be putting most of our efforts into cleaning up our own house of faults.
We should get our own house in order by working on our own self-issues. We should look into the mirror, see our weaknesses and shortcomings, and still love ourselves despite our warts and blemishes. This is healthy and desirable. By doing this, we will find far fewer faults in others. We will see the good in others and find ways to love them instead of finding fault. It is better to look for the good in others than taking glee in finding the bad.
Challenge: The next time you find yourself finding fault with someone else, stop and question your motives. Whenever you are tempted to point out weaknesses and imperfections in others, stop and look within. Spend more time pointing within than pointing at others. Come to grips and accept the fact that you have your own faults. Spend your fault-finding efforts in working on improving yourself. Your efforts will be far better spent.
Wisdom: It requires no thought, no consideration, no character, no talent to be a fault-finder .It is much easier to find fault than to find ways to help. How easy to be critical and how hard to be correct. How easy to find fault with others and how hard to mend our own ways. Fred Van Ambuurg
But seek first his kingdom and his righteousness, and all these things will be giving to you as well. Matt: 6:33
Whoever loves his brother lives in the light, and there is nothing in him to make him stumble.1 John 2:10.
And why do you behold the mote that is in our brother’s eye, and do not consider the beam in your own eye. Jesus
We are told to ‘judge not, lest ye be judged”. We are also told we will be judged by the same standards with which we judge others. This should hit us squarely between the eyes as a warning that “hypocrisy” is a bad thing. Most of us are too imperfect and full of our own shortcomings than to be so hypocritical in publicizing the imperfections of others. God sees and knows our weaknesses. We need to seek his help in improving ourselves.
Prayer: Help me to see all my faults and weaknesses. Give me the strength to overcome them.