Attack another’s rights and you destroy your own. John J Chapman
Respect a man, he will do the more. James Howell
Respect for ourselves guides our morals; respect for others guides our manners. Laurence Sterne
Our mothers taught us to respect our elders. Hopefully, we have taught our children to do the same. It is painfully obvious that there are many who have not mastered the desirable quality of respecting others.
Being respected makes us feel good and appreciated. Showing respect to others is an example of responsible living. It is such a small thing in so many ways, but so very big in others. Many people are so caught up in “what’s in it for me”, “if it feels good, do it”, “my rights and my feelings” and other maligned attitudes. They are focused on “me” and oblivious to those around them. They are often in too big of a hurry and are not sensitive to the needs or feelings of others. It is more like, “I am in a hurry, get out of my way, you are not important, and I will run over you”. Many young people have forgotten or were never taught, “Yes Mam or No Mam”. Too many use obscene gestures and profanities, cut in front of others, are rude and inconsiderate and do not know how to open a door for someone else. They are being disrespectful.
We are not responsible for other people’s actions. We are totally responsible for our own. Many respected leaders, teachers and philosophers tell us it is our relationships with others that is the most important thing in life. How we treat our families, friends, co-workers, and people in general is one of the most important things we will ever do. Respecting others is very fundamental and an important principle to successful living. When we fail to be respectful, we have fallen down from the higher plane of values, morals, ethics and the desirable side of our humanity, to a lower level and darker side of inhumanity.
Being respectful is a form of giving and loving. We can only truly give of ourselves to others when we are loving and accepting of ourselves. If we are on solid footing: with a good self image and self-respect, we do not get overly “bogged down with “me” issues. It comes back to who we are, how we see ourselves, and what motivates us. When we are respectful of others, we are actually being respectful to ourselves. This bears restating! If we disrespectful others, we disrespect ourselves, first and foremost! We need to practice respect.
Challenge: How would you rate your “respect” qualities? Can you correlate this with your own self-image and self-respect? They go hand in hand. Show respect to others and you are actually loving and respecting yourself. Look for opportunities to be respectful. It is good for others, for the world we live in and especially yourself. When you ignore opportunities to show respect, you disrespect yourself. You are also disrespecting your mother!
Wisdom: The law is not the private property of lawyers, nor is justice the exclusive province of judges and juries. In the final analysis, true justice is not a matter of courts and law books, but of a commitment in each of us to liberty and mutual respect. Jimmy Carter.
Dear friends, since God so loved us, we ought to love one another. 1 John 4:11
For the Lord takes delight in his people; he crowns the humble with salvation. Psalm 149:4
He guides the humble in what is right and teaches them his way. Psalm 25:9
When we are disrespectful we disrespect God. Christ was always concerned about the needs of others. Without love in our hearts, we cannot overcome the “me” syndrome. We will have difficulty in being kind and generous. The Golden Rule teaches us to do unto others as we would have them do unto us. If we do not respect ourselves, the Golden Rule will be very hard for us. Without God’s help, it is very difficult to practice the Golden Rule.
Prayer: Help me to respectful, kind, and polite. Help me to help make the world a little better place to live.