Vulgarity begins when imaginations succumbs to the explicit. Doris Day
No crime is vulgar, but all vulgarity is crime. Oscar Wilde
The higher a man stands, the more the word ”vulgar” becomes unintelligible to him. John Ruskin
When we use vulgarity we are choosing to communicate to others through our lower, baser, natures. In black and white words, it is an undesirable, harmful, and demeaning activity. For those who are trying to choose to take the high road it is a step backwards and not in their best interests.
If we have chosen to commit ourselves to personal growth and development, it involves making a commitment to hold ourselves to higher standards, self-accountability and being constructive rather than destructive both in what we allow to influence us as well as how we try to influence others. It means we try to be on the alert at all times and are making conscious decisions as to what our proper course of action is. When we are in situations where the opportunity (temptation) arises to do or say something vulgar, the high road is to make a conscious choice not to engage in it, and choose better courses of action. When we successfully overcome the temptation, we succeed and grow stronger. If we succumb, we failed in our opportunity to do what was right and proper. We are an accumulation of all that we have seen, done, experienced, or been influenced by. All of these things get programmed into us. Regrettably, much that programs and influences us is negative and undesirable. It is easier said than done to overcome such influences. It takes continuous, on-going, and conscious control and decision making to keep focused on new and better directions and decisions.
When we do or say vulgar things, we not only choose to operate at a lower and baser level, we are sanctioning and helping others to rationalize the same behavior in themselves. Even though our vulgarity may not have been offensive to our audience, we passed up an opportunity to do or say something that may have been an uplifting and positive influence. In some respects, vulgarity is a copout that allows us and our audience to sanction our baser natures and hide inside our comfort zones of complacency.
We find it easier to give in to temptation when those around us are willing to yield to the same temptations. There is safety in numbers. We often justify and rationalize our actions based on the actions of others. It takes a strong and well balanced person to overcome and decide against making the “low road” and weaker choice.
Challenge: You are not perfect, nor will you ever be. You can do better. Every time you fail to choose to make the best decision, you fail to grow. Success at personal growth and development is an ongoing and continuous commitment to making right decisions. Every time you do, you grow. All your decisions combine to make you what you are and what you are becoming. Vulgarity is not strength, it is weakness. Choose growth and strength!
Wisdom: America does not want vulgarity and sexual exploitation to be our values and we do not want the world to think those are our standards. We want to be a better nation and a better people, with better standards. Charles W. Pickering
Misfortune pursues the sinner, but prosperity is the reward of the righteous. Proverbs 13:21
Tell the righteous it will be well with them, for they will enjoy the fruit of their deeds. Isaiah 3:10
But seek first his kingdom and his righteousness, and all these things will be given to you as well. Matthew 6:33
Vulgarity is on the opposite end of spirituality. We descend to be vulgar, we ascend to be spiritual. It is on the opposite end of purity, love, compassion and other such traits and characteristics. It is not something that coexists with being “God-like”. It is secular and co-exists with the “ways of the world”. Overcoming vulgarity and the temptations associated with it requires that we keep our eyes and hearts focused on God and seeking his help to rise above such things.
Prayer: Help me to find the strength and courage to overcome temptations and make better decisions.