|Desire to inflict injury, harm, or suffering to others
Truth, wisdom, love, seek reasons; malice only seeks causes. Johann Kaspar Lavater
There has never been a man mean and at the same time virtuous. Confucius
Ignorance of the world leaves one at the mercy of its malice. William Hazlitt
Those wishing harm on others are exhibiting malice. There is a basic lack of concern or care for others well-being or rights. Having malice is an indication of major character flaws. Something is wrong that needs fixing.
We may wish others malice when we perceive that they threaten us. Some have malice in their hearts toward those of different cultures, religions, or beliefs. Malice goes hand in hand with hate, envy, jealousy, and ignorance. It can be related to issues of prejudice and discrimination. Anyone who displays malice is likely dealing with something serious issues of a psychological nature.
It is hard to feel malice or hate when a person is able to love others and have truly healthy relationships. Equally it is hard to be prejudiced or to discriminate if we are well-adjusted and balanced. At the core of this; we cannot love or accept those we do not understand or are different from us, if we have not first learned to love and accept ourselves as worthy of being loved. If we have not developed and matured normally, and do not have a sufficient sense of self-esteem, we tend to want to vent our inadequacies upon others. There is a primitive and instinctive need for us to dislike, hate, and generally take out our hostilities on someone else. Somehow this is supposed to make us feel better about ourselves. It is hard for us to love others if we cannot love ourselves. The more we are “messed up” emotionally and psychologically, the more we are likely to be a menace and danger to others. Our actions, attitudes and thought processes are flawed because some of us do not like what we see in the mirror. Many studies have looked at those who commit malevolent actions and found them to have serious self-issues. Those who do bad things, not only do not like themselves; in many respects they are self-loathing.
Those who are mentally healthy and well-balanced are not likely to have these kinds of problems. The more we grow and develop the healthier and well-adjusted we become. The goal should be to objectively and honestly get to know ourselves. We know that we are flawed and less than perfect, but we are able to love ourselves and accept ourselves in spite of our shortcomings. Then we can learn to love others in the same way.
Challenge: Do you ever find yourself feeling malice toward others? This is an alarm that should tell you to examine what your real motives are behind this feeling. What are the root causes that allow you to have these kinds of feelings? You should do some heavy duty soul searching and self-examination? Chances are that there are some serious self-issues which need addressing. Learn to love yourself so that you can also truly love others.
Wisdom: Distrust all men in whom the impulse to punish is powerful. Friedrich W Nietzsche
Dear friends, since God so loved us, we also ought to love one another. 1 John 4:11
We love because He first loved us. 1 John 4:19
But seek first his kingdom and his righteousness, and all these things will be given to you as well. Matt 6:33
Love, or the lack of it, is at the core of most of our problems, both personally and in a global and worldly way. When we are unable to love, we have problems with feeling “loved”. When we do not feel loved, our inner being will try to cover up and improvise to help us better cope. All of these things are flawed. The answer is love. If God loves us as unlovable as we are. Then we can feel “loved”. We can build on this for a healthier life.
Prayer: I can love myself because you love me and died for me. Help me to have your love in my heart.