Braggarts are “all bark and no bite”. The bigger the talk and louder the boasting; the more likely there is less there than meets the eye. People who are braggarts are trying to impress us with reasons why they should be admired. In actuality, they are individuals who are rather insecure.
The more ‘braggadocio’ exhibited on the outside, the more something is likely amiss on the inside. This is a defense mechanism manifested by the sub-conscious mind to protect a vulnerable and fragile ego. Braggarts are actually reaching out for love and acceptance from those around them. By boasting and talking big they are hoping to attract attention and admiration. They are actually achieving the exact opposite of what they desire. Most of us are turned off and try to avoid braggarts. We have all known individuals who are “blowhards”. Think of someone who fits this description. Remember how hard they try to impress us. The more they try, the more uncomfortable we are to be around them. By telling us of their exploits and accomplishments, the hope is we will be drawn to them. Instead of attracting us, we are driven away. They are their own worst enemies.
As much as we are turned off by the braggart personality, we should be mindful of avoiding this behavior in ourselves. It is easy to do. It is easy to brag and to exaggerate. It is very commonplace in our society. Everyone wants to be noticed and recognized. In goes deeper than this, we all want to be loved. Our sub-conscious mind will try to cover up our weaknesses and will create counterfeit qualities to make up for our inadequacies. If we have self-issues; self-love, self-esteem, self-acceptance, and others; we unconsciously try to create false appearances to hide behind. We should avoid singing our own praises. Let others notice our good qualities for themselves. We do not have to announce them.
Humility is the desired behavior type. True humility comes from having a healthy self-image. We do not have to try to be someone other than who we are. When we are open and genuine we will come closer to having warm and appealing relationships with others than if we are blowing our own horn. It is much better to be around those that care about us and like us for who we are, even with all our “warts and blemishes”.
Challenge: You need good internal plumbing and wiring to be mentally healthy and productive. All sorts of undesirable behavior patterns will try to manifest themselves to make up for any of your faulty self-issues. One of your most crucial needs is to be able to love and accept yourself. Develop and maintain a healthy self-image. This is in many respects as important as maintaining a healthy and well functioning heart.
Wisdom: There is a difference between conceit and confidence. Conceit is bragging about yourself. Confidence means you believe you can get the job done. Johnny Unitas
Therefore, whoever humbles himself like this child is the greatest in the kingdom of heaven. Matthew 18:4
For whoever exalts himself will be humbled and whoever humbles himself will be exalted. Matthew 23:12
I can do all things through Christ who gives me strength. Philippians 4:13
We all want to be loved. It is a basic need. When we feel unloved, do not like ourselves and cannot believe others would ever have a reason to care about us; we will have problems with our well-being. Every one of us has someone who loves us. God loves us unconditionally. His love for us is greater than any human’s ability to love anyone else. We should learn to use God’s love for us as a healthy foundation for learning to love ourselves.
Prayer: Help me to first love myself, then to be able to love others, all of this because of your love in me.