Forgiveness is letting go of the hope that the past can be changed. Oprah Winfrey
We must be willing to let go of the life we have planned, so as to accept the life that is waiting for us. Joseph Campbell
There’s an important difference between giving up and letting go. Jessica Hatchigan
As human beings we need to feel “safe and secure”. Much of our security often comes in the form of relationships: spouse, parents, children and friends. The need and the makeup of our security changes throughout our lives. Loss or lack of it can cause great upheaval and uncertainty.
It is analogous to the “security blanket”. With it we feel more secure; without it we can feel exposed, vulnerable, lost, and without direction and purpose. Children, who have learned to depend upon their security blanket, eventually must give it up as a right of passage. When security blankets are lost or taken away, the child must grow through the traumatic experience of life without it. As adults, we occasionally lose that which has provided us our sense of security. When this happens, it is often a very traumatic event. Greatest among these, is the lost of a spouse, parent, or a child. It can even be a job loss or other such change. These sources of security are part of our very being. It is a part of what we have built our lives upon. When they are removed, we are exposed and vulnerable. Our lives have lost something very significant and will never, ever be exactly the same.
Our inclination is to try to hang on to our security blankets. However, they are no longer there in the way we once knew them. The longer we try to hang on, the more it will impair our living in the present and progressing toward the future. We must let go of those things that are no longer there. It is hard to do, and for some, extremely difficult; but it one of the requirements that Life makes. We grieve that which is no longer there; we must let go of our past life and adapt to our present circumstances. This is necessary for our well-being. These kinds of things are part of life’s journey. When things happen to takes away our feelings of security; it is time to regroup and move on. We must replace our old sense of security with something that is appropriate and current. The more we can be self-secure, confident, and focused on our purpose, the more ideal it is. The only real security we will ever have is that which we provide to ourselves from being secure in who and what we are.
Challenge: Is there an aspect of your life that requires ‘Letting Go?’ Are you trying to hang onto to something no longer there? Has losing your security blanket taken away from your sense of security and well-being? You must let go, little by little; doing the best you can. Look to the future, not the past. Rebuild a secure foundation with confidence and believe you will adapt. Your security is largely what you make of it. Be more self-secure.
Wisdom: Let go. Why do you cling to pain? There is nothing you can do about the wrongs of yesterday. It is not yours to judge. Why hold on to the very thing which keeps you from hope and love? Leo Buscaglia
I can do all things through him who gives me strength. Philippians 4:13
A righteous man may have many troubles. But the Lord delivers him from them all. Psalm 34.19
For God did not give us a spirit of timidity, but a spirit of power, of love and of self-discipline. 2 Timothy 1:7
The ultimate security anyone can ever have is to be secure in their relationship with God. All else pales in comparison. By having confidence in our relationship with God and in our salvation, we should have all the security needed to live this life. By knowing we cannot fail, we should have the energy and confidence to take on life with added purpose. We can have the ultimate security blanket. God has promised to make us secure.
Prayer: Help me to learn to let go of things that are past and go forward as you would have me do.