Change is Never Easy

100_1578The difficulties in embracing changes, overcoming status quo and inertia

We must change in order to survive. Pearl Bailey

Observe constantly that all things take place by change. Marcus Aurelius

In order to learn one must change one’s mind. Orson Scott Card

  Most prefer things to stay as they are. We do not like others monkeying around with where we are and with what we have created. It is fragile and delicate. Change disrupts our sense of stability and normalcy. We want to leave “well enough” alone. “Do not rock the boat. Do not make waves. If it ain’t broken, don’t fix it.”

   We are creatures of habit and are secure in our status quo. We have a custom designed comfort zone that we have put much time and effort into decorating and equipping; it is home sweet home. Every time change comes along, it disrupts the sanctity of our sanctuary and we have to start rearranging and redecorating. We do not want anything messing around with the place where we feel the warmest, most secure and unthreatened. It is the place we can be us; do not have to perform; and do not have to meet someone else’s expectations. The concepts of change and the sanctity of our comfort zone are opposite and diametrically opposed to each other.

     Some of us have a misaligned concept of change. We view it similarly to visiting the dentist. Dread, apprehension, fear, worry and other assorted undesirable feelings fill our thoughts and concerns. We expect the worse and wish conditions of change to go away. The trip to the dentist is a necessity. Our oral health and well-being hang in the balance. Our need for change is similar. It is vitally necessary to our growth and well-being.

     Someone once said that we are the person we are going to be, except for the people we meet and the books we read. There is much truth to this. A better rendition would be something like: “You are the person you are going to be except for all those things that will happen to change you into something other than what you are.” Change is necessary. Without it, we will never take steps to develop the wonderful potential that lies dormant in us.

     A lowly caterpillar turning into a beautiful butterfly is metamorphosis. It happens only once for a butterfly. “Morphing” should be continuously and ongoing. We should constantly be reinventing ourselves. Instead of dreading and fighting change, we would be wise to embrace it. Life’s adventure become nobler and more exciting knowing we are continuously creating and reinventing new and better versions of ourselves.

Challenge: Change is going to be a part of your life not matter what you do. You can approach it as a victim or you can approach it as an artisan and craftsman. Learn to look at change as a process for fine tuning, adjusting, molding and making yourself into something that is going to be better than your present version. Learn to look at change as a positive and not as negative. Take charge of becoming the beautiful butterfly you are meant to be.

Wisdom: Every human has four endowments: self awareness, conscience, independent will and creative imagination. These give us the ultimate human freedom — The power to choose, to respond, to change. Steven Covey

Spiritual: (NIV)

And this is my prayer: that your love may abound more and more in knowledge and depth of insight. Phil.1:9

You need to persevere so that when you have done the will of God, you will receive what he has promised. Hebrews 10:36

To the man who pleases him, God gives wisdom, knowledge and happiness. Ecclesiastes 2:26

The singer, Ethel Waters, said “God don’t make no junk.” We are made is God’s image. He placed within us the raw material to become the human version of a beautiful butterfly. Our metamorphosis is an ongoing process taking place during our earthy life and culminates when we leave this life for the next one. In order to become a beautiful creature we must allow God to help mold us and make us. He knows best how to perfect the process.

Prayer: Help me to help you, help me become the equivalent of the beautiful butterfly you want me to be.


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