I love it when ugliness is beautiful. I love character flaws. Marcia Gay Harden
The beauty on the inside, will determine the ugly on the outside. Anthony Liccione
If beauty is in the eye of the beholder, so is ugliness. Author Unknown
The fairy tale of the ugly duckling teaches us about human nature. A “duckling” is born in a barn yard. It is ugly, unattractive, clumsy and awkward in everything it does. It is looked down upon and shunned because of its differences. Our life’s experiences would lead us to expect nothing but bad outcomes for this ugly duckling.
The duckling turns out really to be a signet (baby swan). The swan egg somehow ends up in a nest with the duck eggs. As the story goes, the ugly duckling overcomes its environment and turns into a beautiful swan. The parallels of this story to our lives are many. There are wrong impressions, prejudices, being judgmental, being unkind and unloving. We are too quick to pass judgment, be prejudiced, create low expectations and not give the benefit of the doubt as we should. Many of us have known ugly ducklings which somehow turned into beautiful swans. Many of us in our own various ways know what is like to have been or continue to be an ugly duckling.
The signet had in its DNA what it took to become much more than the ugly duckling it started life as. In the fairy tale the signet’s genetic programming took over and turned it into the beautiful swan it was intended to be. Our lives are also dependent upon genetic programming and equally on the environmental influences in which we are born and subjected to throughout our entire lives. We have no control over our genetic programming and no influence on our early environmental influences, but as we grow older and start maturing, we increasingly must take the responsibility for determining what we do with our lives. In many ways: “We get out of life what we put into it”. Whether we had good and ideal beginnings or we had marginal or even undesirable beginnings, it finally gets to the point, those things matter very little, it is what we do with what we have that matters.
The Ugly Duckling reminds us things do not always have to end up as they start, there is always hope. There may be more to things than we see or realize. We should not be quick to judge, should always do our best, and help others do their best as much as we can. There are many ugly ducklings waiting to become beautiful swans.
Challenge: Do you consider yourself as an ugly duckling? What causes you to think this way? Are there those who you personally treat as an ugly duckling? Sometimes what you perceive as ugly is a mistake in judgment or perception. What is really inside? This makes up and determines who and what you really are. This determines beauty or ugliness. Try and become the good and beautiful person you can be. This is what really counts.
Wisdom: “It doesn’t matter if you’re born in a duck yard, so long as you are hatched from a swan’s egg. Hans Christian Anderson
The fruit of righteousness will be peace; the effect of righteousness will be quietness and confidence forever. Isaiah 32:17
You need to persevere so that when you have done the will of God, you will receive what he has promised. Hebrews 10:36
I can do all things through Christ who gives me strength. Philippians 4:13
The best attitude for living is having a spirit of love. The power of love allows us to rise above conditions and be more in control of our thoughts and actions. Those who have it together are those who have good attitude about themselves and their lives. We are limited both in our attitude and ability to love because of our sinful nature. God enables and teaches us how to truly love through the power of His Holy Spirit. He can teach us how to love.
Prayer: Help me to overcome my selfish and unloving ways and to learn to have a more loving attitude.