You never get a second chance to make a first impression. Author Unknown
First appearance deceives many. Phaedus
Beware, so long as you live, of judging men by their outward appearance. Jean De La Fontaine
A“first impression” is something everyone experiences. First impressions happen when two individuals meet for the first time. Both of them have sub-conscious and conscious reactions as to whether or not they liked or disliked each other. Sometimes life changing decisions are made based upon these first encounters.
If there is a need to make a good impression for purposes of getting a job, making a sale, gaining potential influence, or whatever reason; anything less than making a “good” first impression likely results in the failure of accomplishing the desired task. We may never meet with this person again. It is important to make the most of our “one shot at making a good first impression”. Some of us are better at this than others. The important thing is to be aware of this and to “put our very best foot forward”. We may really be the person the other is looking for or needs to know, but can never find this out because they are too quick to judge us based on “first impression”.
In many respects, it is unfair, that so many decisions are made this way. There are those who are able to “be above” the limitations of being overly influenced by first impressions they receive from someone. They realize that some people are nervous, have bad days or may even have experienced a personal or family crisis. They may have much more to offer than is revealed by “this” first impression. Before making a decision as to whether or not to pursue a potential relationship with another, it may be desirable to “dig a little deeper”.
It is wise not to be overly dependent upon first impressions. We may need to see past what little is often revealed during such a limited opportunity to get to know someone. We may find out this person has much to offer. How many times have we been “unfair” in the first impression we form of others? We should be very, very careful when we find ourselves making any kind of judgments when dealing with others. Two important points to remember: We should always try our best to make a “good first impression” with those we meet but we should always remember to be aware that those who do not necessarily make the best first impressions with us may still be someone whom we need to know better.
Challenge: First impressions are a form of judgment making. You cannot necessarily control how others judge you, but you are responsible in how you judge others. It is important for you to make good first impressions. Be sure to put the time and effort into doing this. However, remember to treat others as you would want them to treat you! First impressions do not always tell the whole story.
Wisdom: Don’t be over self-confident with your first impressions of people. Chinese Proverb
This is a day that the Lord hath made, let us rejoice and be glad in it. Psalm 118:24
And we know that all things work together for good to them that love God, to them who are the called according to his purpose. Romans 8:28
What can we say to these things? If God be for us, who can be against us? Romans 8:31
When we have love in our hearts we tend to be much more kind and considerate of others. When there is an absence of love, we are not at our best. Being judgmental, condescending, unkind, selfish or so many other undesirable attitudes are more likely to express themselves in us when we do not have a basis of love guiding our interactions with others. The source of love is God. Where there is God there is love.
Prayer: Help me to be very aware of judging others.