Obstacles aren’t roadblocks, they’re stepping stones. Jeffrey Benjamin
The person who removes a mountain begins by removing small stones. Chinese Proverb
Removing mental roadblocks is fundamental to achieving success, joy and happiness. Randall Burkhalter
There is much about life that is analogous to long journeys or road trips. There is a beginning and there is a destination or an end. Some of us travel through life with some sense of mission and purpose and do have a destination in mind. Others are more or less along for the ride, and wherever the road happens to go. It is where we find ourselves at any one moment. Whether we are driving ourselves or are letting life drive us, we find ourselves facing roadblocks, detours, pot holes and other distractions and hindrances all along the way.
Whether we are proactive or passive in how we manage life’s journey, one of the things we must contend with is the mental roadblocks we choose to put in our own way. The thing about mental roadblocks is they are self-imposed. We are our own bad guys. On the surface, on the outside looking in, how ridiculous this sounds. We are guilty of sabotaging, delaying and disrupting our own life’s journey. If we were aware of an individual, or adversary doing such things to us, we would take actions to defeat them and prevent them from doing so.
Yet, most of us are guilty of self-sabotage regularly and consistently. It is somewhat like Wiley Coyote and the Roadrunner. Each of us has a Wiley Coyote in us. He is our inner self, part of our self-image, in many ways our chief adversary. Our inner version of Wiley spends time and effort and goes to elaborate means trying to harm our outer self, the Roadrunner. What would it be like if our Wiley actually became supportive and cooperative? What would it be like if he changed his job from chief adversary to our helper and advocate?
Life is tough enough because of naturally occurring roadblocks that happen all along the way. We will have enough roadblocks without adding our own. It is in our best interests for us to stop putting our own mental roadblocks in our way. This requires spending quality time in thought and self-introspection. It requires being aware of our own self-sabotaging behaviors, being honest about the things we do, and our bad choices. We have to be aware of our fears, doubts and limiting beliefs, anything that sabotages our true potential. It requires having more personal commitment and a deeper sense of purpose to our lives.
Challenge: A good attitude about life requires active management. If you are not doing this, you are being too passive or just reactive to life’s circumstances. It is up to you to take charge and be proactive or be a victim and accept whatever happens. Having a proactive attitude puts you in control and enables you to defeat the Wiley Coyote tendencies inside you. Your life’s journey will become a little smoother with fewer delays and obstacles.
I can do all things through Christ who gives me strength. Philippians 4:13
You need to persevere so that when you have done the will of God, you will receive what he has promised. Hebrews 10:36
Be strong and take heart, all you who hope in the Lord. Psalm 31:24
Often, if not most of the time, we are our own worst enemies. We continue to impede and to sabotage our quality of life as well as the level of success we should have. We do this by doing things not in our best interests; by our bad decisions and by our lack of courage and conviction, and by not living up to our own expectations. In our own strength, we fall short over and over again. God is always there to help us do better, if we will but ask him.
Prayer: Help me to have the courage and strength of purpose to stop placing mental barriers in my own way.