Sorrow makes men sincere. Henry Ward Beecher
There is something pleasurable in calm remembrance of a past sorrow. Cicero
We would never learn to be brave and patient, if there were only joy in the world. Helen Keller
We experience sorrow when we lose something or someone very important to us. It can come from the loss of a loved one or friend, our health, a job, financial security and a myriad of different things. Sorrow comes when we must leave something important behind. Our life has changed. We have to move on into a new future.
It marks the end of a chapter in our life; we are forced to fill in, substitute, or live without something or someone we have known and depended on. We can experience anger, denial and grief as we confront the fact that our life has changed in a major way. It may cause us to doubt our future well being as we consider living without something that defined who we were. It leaves a big void in our feelings of security and well being.
Life is a time-line event that has a start and a finish. We are born, live, and then we die. We live two lives, an inner-mental life, and an outer-physical life. The mental empowers the physical and the physical stimulates the mental. What we experience through our senses causes us to have a mental self concept of who we are. We are comprised by our memories, feelings, likes, dislikes, strengths, weaknesses, and a long list of many things.
When something is taken from us, especially something that caused us to feel secure and comfortable, it leaves a significant void. Our sense of security is shaken. Our comfort zone is less than warm and fuzzy. Doubts and fears can cause us to fear our future. We are drawn to find comfort in past memories and experience sorrow.
Loss and change are parts of life. The experience of sorrow is another aspect of our human nature. Our life can be described as a book that continues to be written as we experience each and every day. New events take place that define and develop us as the various pages and chapters continue to be written. All of these things are part of what it takes in order for us to be become fully developed. We cannot become complete without them.
When we experience sorrow, we are missing something from our past. Life requires living in the present, moving to the future, and only remembering the past, leaving it behind. Life is to be lived in the here and now.
Challenge: Feelings of sorrow are natural. However, you must move on. It is unhealthy to spend too much time reliving the past. You have bridges to cross, forks in the road, and new paths to travel. Each day is a new chapter in your life’s autobiography. Use the experiences of your past to make the most of the opportunities of today, as you prepare for the future. Use everything that happens in your life to make your life that much more rewarding.
Wisdom: Believe me, every man has his secret sorrows which the world knows not; and oftentimes we call a man cold when his is only sad. Henry Wadsworth Longfellow
The Lord is good, a refuge in times of trouble. He cares for those who trust in him. Nahum 1:7
Now faith is being sure of what we hope for and certain of what we do not see. Hebrews 11:1
But they that wait upon the Lord shall renew their strength; they shall mount up with wings as eagles; they shall run, and not be weary; and they shall walk, and not faint. Isaiah 40:31
Our Heavenly Father is well aware of our doubts, fears, sorrows, and hurts. We do not know our future, but He does. He comforts us and helps us through our difficulties while at the same time He is trying to grow us and develop us into what He designed us to be. The uncertainty of our future is easier to bear when we trust Him for our well being. We do not know what the future holds, but we know who holds the future. We are in good hands.
Prayer: Help me to handle sorrow in a healthy way. Help me to go forward in trust, faith, and patience.