Comfort Zone

TranquilityThe place, mental or physical, where a person feels safe and secure; unthreatened, unchallenged. 

Our comfort zone is a form of self-imposed imprisonment. We keep ourselves locked up. Randall Burkhalter

To the degree we’re not living our dreams, our comfort zone has more control of us than we have over ourselves. Peter McWilliams

Move out of your comfort zone. You can only grow if you are willing to feel awkward and uncomfortable when you try something new. Brian Tracy

  Comfort zones are adult versions of security blankets. We all have one and carry it around just as Linus does in Peanuts cartoons. Security blankets are substitute mothers. They give comfort and provide feelings of safety and security, much as our mothers would do for us.  

  There is a time when we should leave our childhood nests. It should be when are no longer dependent on our mothers or security blankets and are ready for our independence. However, even then, most of us will continue to have difficulty venturing very far from feelings of safety and security. Creating and maintaining our personal comfort zone replaces our security blanket and ‘mom’.

   It is ‘our’ place where we feel the most comfortable and the least insecure. Fundamentally, we have a need to feel safe and secure. We become handicapped if we spend too much time in our comfort zone and never leave it. We become much like the child that is overly dependent upon its mother, too afraid to do anything on its own. There is a very significant correlation between the dependency we have on our comfort zones and the amount of growth and development we will experience. Spending too much time in our comfort zone keeps us from ever becoming all that we can become. We will fall short of achieving our potential.

   We grow and develop in direct correlation to living, learning, growing and experiencing new things. We have to take risks. This means we have to risk falling down and skinning our knees. We increasingly have to be willing to go further and further distances from the safety and security of our comfort zone. The further out we venture and return safely home, the more comfortable we become venturing further and further. We must have the self-discipline and the motivation it takes to do this. If we continue to do the same things we always do and in the same manner we have always done them, chances are we will experience very little growth.

   We should be a mature adult and good parent to ourselves and make sure we travel outside of our comfort zone regularly. Look on it as a safari. Each trip is an adventure that is sure to expand our experience and our consciousness. Each trip causes us to grow and develop into the wonderful creation we are meant to be.

Challenge:  We continue to have ‘parenting’ needs in our lives. It is something we need to do for ourselves. Growing and developing is part of our life process from birth until death. Too many become very stagnant and complacent. If you are not actively growing and developing your potential you are shirking a very important responsibility. Commit to going outside the confines of your comfort zone and grow and develop yourself.   

Wisdom: If you put yourself in a position where you have to stretch outside your comfort zone, then you are forced to expand your consciousness. Les Brown     

Spiritual: (NIV)

If any of you lacks wisdom, he should ask God, who gives generously to all without finding fault, and it will be given to him. James 1:5

For God did not give us a spirit of timidity, but a spirit of power, of love and of self-discipline. 2 Timothy 1:7

I can do all things through Christ who gives me strength. Philippians 4:13

We will always have need for feelings of safety and security. The ultimate comfort zone and the perfect security blanket is God. He is the perfect parent. It is His desire for us to grow and to develop into the wonderful creation He designed us to be. As long as we continue to try to stumble through life on our own and without His help, we will fall miserably short. We can reach out and grab His hand and He will lift us up and show us the way.

Prayer:  Help me to let go and let You coach, teach, and develop me into what You have designed me to be.

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