Road to Niceville

Road to NicevillePath to becoming a nicer person as compared to being self-centered 

A cloudy day is no match for a sunny disposition. William A Ward

It’s nice to be important, but it’s more important to be nice.  Author Unknown

The best portion of a good man’s life – his little, nameless, unremembered acts of kindness and love.  Wordsworth

  As we grow and mature, we increasingly look back and reflect upon our past experiences. We can remember moments where our life may have changed or shifted for the “good”. Various words and phrases used to describe such moments are “aha moments”, mountaintop experiences, paradigm shifts and epiphanies. Something happens, transpires or inspires that causes us to change our perspective or outlook. Sometimes these transitions are rather dramatic, but very often they may be more subtle and transitional.  

    One of these changes could be called taking the road to Niceville. This can be described as that point in life where we actually become more oriented toward becoming nicer. It is that point where we transition from too often leaning toward being disagreeable, unpleasant, unfriendly and selfish to becoming nicer. It is like someone flips a switch and we no longer immediately evaluate things from a “me” position, or what is in it for me. We are actually inspired and motivated to be nice and do things for others without ulterior motives behind our actions.

     Not everyone goes down the road to Niceville. Some never sufficiently overcome self-issues. They do not have a strong enough inner core to be enabled to be nice. Others seem to be born nice; overcoming such things as selfishness was never such a problem for them. Too many have significant difficulties in overcoming self-centeredness and selfishness. They face ongoing battle with their inner selves, uncovering their true motives and overcoming weaknesses, shortcomings and faults before becoming nice for niceness sake. Some of us have hard work to do in order to become nice. It is not such an easy transition.

    One amazing thing about each of us is our uniqueness. Some things which come easy for some are difficult for others, and vice versa. We are born with capacity to become almost anything to which we can fix our attention and concentrate our efforts. Some of us are not nearly as nice as we could be. We may be nice to family and friends, but we are not very nice to those outside our support circles. Some are nicer to strangers than family and friends. It can be said we have ulterior motives when we are nice to those that are nice to us. Those seeking joy and happiness in life have strong reason to believe that being nice begets niceness. Be nice to others.

Challenge: Who you are and what your perspectives are is an inside-out issue. Who you perceive yourself to be on the inside has everything to do with who you are on the outside. You may try to mask and cover up things that you do not like about yourself and try to appear to be somebody different. Becoming the person you are capable of being is ongoing and never ending. You are and always will be a work in progress. Work harder.

Wisdom: You can’t live a perfect day without doing something for someone who will never be able to repay you.  John Wooden

Spiritual: (NIV)

Dear friends, since God so loved us, we also ought to love one another. 1 John 4:11

For this very reason, make every effort to add to your faith goodness; and to goodness, knowledge. 2 Pt 1:5

He who is kind to the poor lends to the Lord, and he will reward him for what he has done. Proverbs 19:17

We exist in two worlds, the secular and the spiritual. We exist in two timelines, the present and the eternal. We seem mostly able to focus only on the secular and the present. In the big scheme of things this life is like a grain of sand on the seashore. Growing and becoming the best person we can become is undoubtedly a primary purpose for being here. We have been planted here for that purpose. God will help us to become that person.

Prayer: Help me to overcome my weaknesses and become the better person you want me to become. 



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