Disappointment

Winter Beach RandallDissatisfaction from expectations not realized; an act (or failure to act) that disappoints someone

Opportunity…often it comes in the form of misfortune, or temporary defeat.  Napoleon Hill

You may not have been responsible for your heritage, but you are responsible for your future

The source and center of all man’s creative power…is his power of making images, or the power of imagination.  Robert Collier

   Learning to deal with disappointments is one of life’s necessities. Disappointments will happen to us throughout our lives. The question is, “how do we react to them and what lingering effects will we have”.                                 

    There is a past, present, and future aspect to our lives. In which one of these time periods should we spend most of our time? The most wrong answer is, “the past”. When we spend too much time in the past, there is an indication that we are having problems living in the present. When we experience disappointment, something has just happened in the present which may cause us to have any number of possible emotional and mental reactions.    

    There is nothing wrong with experiencing “disappointment”. It is something that we will do. What is important is that we deal with it, experience it, and get going forward again. It is very bad if the disappointment causes us to stop going forward and we get caught up living in the past. In some ways, disappointments are analogous to experiencing the death of a loved one or close friend. We should mourn their loss and have fond memories of our relationship, and their influence upon us. Continuing to dwell on their death is unhealthy and robs us of opportunities to live life in the present as well as in the future.

     One aspect of experiencing “disappointment” that should benefit us is to ascribe to “looking to find the “good” in everything that happens”. Our life is a continuum that begins at our birth and ends at our death. We start as an empty vessel and hopefully we end life as a vessel filled with rich and rewarding life’s experiences. It should be as if we are continuously harvesting the fruit of life’s experiences and learning and growing from everything that happens. When disappointment comes our way as it inevitably will, the ideal is to pause and reflect on any good associated with it, learn from the experience, and go forward (if at all possible, the better for it). More often than not, it is easier said than done. Many have difficulty functioning well in today’s world, because they continue to relive the past. Those doing this are robbing themselves of making the most of today’s and tomorrow’s opportunities. We should not let “disappointment” rob us of living our life to the fullest, today.

Challenge:  How are you at dealing with disappointments? What issues in your life (disappointments) are presently adversely affecting your living in the present and in going forward? Are you spending too much time reliving the past? The past is past. Learn to give these events a proper burial and go forward. Learn and remember the good (if at all possible), but do not be shackled down to that which is now gone. Go forward!

Wisdom:Disappointment to a noble soul is what cold water is to burning metal; it strengthens, tempers, intensifies, but never destroys it. Eliza Tabor

Spiritual: (NIV)

My flesh and my heart may fail, but God is the strength of my heart and my portion forever.  Psalm 73:26

The Lord is a refuge for the oppressed, a stronghold in times of trouble.  Psalm 9:9

I have told you these things, so that in me you may have peace. In this world you will have trouble, But take heart I have overcome the world.  John 16:33

Life will have its disappointments. It is hard for us to grow and develop into what we are capable of becoming if we are not tested, tempered and strengthened. Some believe we are being tempered for something much greater in a future life.  We will have limited success mastering the disappointments of life if only relying our own strength. God is there to teach and help us in mastering this aspect of life. He does this because He loves us.

Prayer:  Help me to find strength in you to deal with the disappointments of this life. 

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