Constant complaint is the poorest sort of pay for all the comforts we enjoy. Benjamin Franklin
Whining is counter-productive; it does nothing to improve things. Randall Burkhalter
If you have time to whine and complain about something then you have the time to do something about it. Anthony D’Angeleo
Most of us do not have a lot of tolerance for whining from others. But do we depend on our friends and loved ones patiently listening to our woes when we are having tough times? If we are perceived as a whiner, their empathy and sympathy may be less than sincere. We tire easily when around people who are always proclaiming how unfair things are. Whiners look for those whose ears than can fill with the hardships and misfortune that has befallen them. They want to have someone share their misery with them. Are we whining too much?
For some whining seems to be something they cannot help doing. We try to avoid them because they make us miserable. If we are uncomfortable when we hear others whining, we should be even more aware of the effect that our whining may have on others. Sometimes there is a fine line. Our friends and loved ones do care about us. If we truly care about them we will not take advantage of them by going overboard with our woes. Whining implies spending too much time feeling sorry for our self. They prefer seeing us trying to deal with our misfortunes and being proactive to improve things. Perseverance and determination are admired. When someone loses a loved one, it is appropriate and expected for them to grieve. After an appropriate amount of time, it is time to go on. We have been around those who have had divorces, lost jobs, or have been passed over for promotions. Some of them end up alienating us because of their morbid sense of whining. We have empathy and sympathy for their misfortune, but after a while; it is time for them to leave the past behind and re-engage life.
Our overly whining may make our friends and loved ones avoid us because they do not want to be dragged into our misery. All of us have our hurts, doubts and uncertainties. We carry them around with us. Whiners remind us too much of our own weakness and shortcomings. We prefer being around those with spirit and determination; those that have fallen down and are really trying to get up and go again. We need to see others doing this so that we can be assured that we are capable of the same thing. We want to around those that inspire us with their grit.
Challenge: Think of someone whom you know to be a “whiner”. The next time you hear them whine be aware of how it makes you feel. Keep this image in your mind for those times when you find yourself whining. Do not try to solicit sympathy by “whining”. Do not overdo time you may spend grieving, mourning, or reflecting upon unhappy events. After an appropriate time, turn forward, muster your determination, and re-engage your life.
|Wisdom: Fear less, hope more; Eat less, chew more; Whine less, breathe more; Talk less, say more’ Love more, and all good things will be yours. Swedish Proverb|
And my God will meet all your needs according to his glorious riches in Christ Jesus. Philippians 4:19
The Lord is a refuge for the oppressed, a stronghold in times of trouble. Psalm 9:9
Consequently, faith comes from hearing the message and the message is heard through the word of Christ. Romans 10:17
Instead of whining and complaining we should be giving thanks for our blessings. Most of us have so much to be thankful for. All we need to do is to open our eyes and ears, look around, and see all those who have it worse than we do. We need to be more proactive and dynamic. God wants us to be good stewards and to use our life, our time, and our opportunities to become the beautiful person he intends us to be. He will help show us the way.
Prayer: Help me to be more proactive and try to do better. Help me not to complain and whine.