Profaneness is a brutal vice. He who indulges in it is no gentleman. Edwin Chapin
To swear is neither brave, polite, nor wise. Alexander Pope
Profanity is the crutch of a conversational cripple. Jay Alexander
Why do we use profanity? It is a form of very emphatic expression. What is being said is embellished with descriptive words which are considered vulgar and irreverent by many. There are those who find it offensive.
Depending upon a person’s background, work environment and any number of factors; profanity can be almost as plentiful as the very air we breathe. Some use profanity without any second thought, remorse or misgivings. Others regret using it as soon as it slips from their tongue. Some are so offended by it, they will leave the area.
For many, profanity is taboo and offensive. For others it is part of their culture and normal daily vocabulary. Anytime we do something purposefully that we know offends someone, we are not acting in a loving, kind, and compassionate way. The Golden Rule, “do unto others as you would have them do unto you”, speaks for itself. Using profanity when we know it offends someone is verbally assaulting and offensive. There are phrases and words, not considered profanity, which society has banned, because of their extremely offensive nature to some.
It can be argued people should not be so thinned skinned. This gets onto a slippery slope, potentially leading to no taboos and no boundaries. Is it okay to make fun of people, their heritage, deformities, religion, ethnicity and so forth? Looking into the nature of expressing oneself using profanity; there are better and more civil ways to express one’s self. Lack of self-discipline and self-control, letting one’s emotions get away, losing the temper; are some root causes of profanity. Are not these things personal weaknesses with profanity being a by-product?
If we use profanity and it is unacceptable to our own value system, are we not offensive to ourselves? This may be worth exploring. If our value system red flags us, then it is reason enough for not profaning. We are doing something that violates our own principles, values, and beliefs.
If we care about the impressions we make, then profanity is damaging our relationship with others. Ideally, we practice self-discipline and self-control. We care about others and want to avoid offending them. We choose not to offend if possible. If we commit to personal growth and development these things are reason enough to avoid profanity as a means of expression. It can be offensive to others and probably even more harmful to ourselves.
Challenge: If you do not use profanity, good! If profanity is a problem, you must decide if you truly want to overcome it. Consider this: “you are totally responsible for controlling your thoughts and actions and the words you express.” When you are tempted to use profanity and avoid it you have exercised self- control and self-discipline. Be aware of the root causes that may cause you to use profanity. Control your thoughts and words.
Wisdom: When a man uses profanity to support an argument, it indicates that either the man or the argument is weak – probably both. Author Unknown
Do not be quickly provoked in your spirit, for anger resides in the lap of fools. Ecclesiastes 7:9
A quick tempered man does foolish things. Proverbs 14:17
A hot-tempered man stirs up dissension, but a patient man calms a quarrel. Proverbs 15:18
Anything not done in a spirit of love is spiritually weak. If we truly care and are concerned for others, we will remove profanity from our expressions. “There is nothing loving in profanity.” Something is lacking. We are angry, unhappy, undisciplined or have self-issues. In our own strength we will always have such problems. With God in our lives, and as we allow Him to empower us, He will give us the strength to overcome these things.
Prayer: Help me to have more and more of a loving spirit within me.