Whoever one is, and wherever one is, one is always in the wrong if one is rude. Maurice Barin
Life is not so short but that there is always time for courtesy. Ralph Waldo Emerson
Treat everyone with politeness, even those who are rude to you – not because they are nice, but because you are. Author Unknown
Many of us had parents and grandparents who insisted that we display good manners in everything we did. We were required to show manners at home as well as when we were out in public. Is having good manners vanishing from our world? Are we losing something very important?
Are the young people of today not being taught these important skills? What has happened to our core upbringing? Are we going backwards instead of forwards? Good manners are not something that should become extinct. The households of the old “Father Knows Best” or “Ozzie and Harriet” TV series exemplified a household of manners. In today’s TV world perhaps the typical household is more exemplified by the “Simpsons”. Displaying good manners requires showing respect to everyone around us. It facilitates a kinder and gentler world of unselfishness, respect, good attitudes and good dispositions. Those with manners tend to be well taught and come from good environments. It should be an indication that the person has a good inner core, cares about others, is well-balanced, kind and even trustworthy. A person’s manners usually tells much about them.
A shortage of manners may indicate a lack of good background and upbringing. A person without manners was not likely brought up in the best environment or has chosen to reject good upbringing and act contrary to it.
Those with manners treat others with respect and dignity. Children address their seniors with “yes mam” and “no sir”. Everyone should say “thank you” or “no thank you” and “excuse me”. Holding doors open for people and letting others go first are examples of what it expected by “good manners”. Also tolerance, patience, kindness and giving of ourselves to help others are further examples. Putting the needs of others before our own is “good upbringing”. Having good manners is a close kin to practicing the Golden Rule.
Our world is a better place to live when there are good manners. Each person who displays good manners is a better person. It is such a little thing to smile, open doors, let others go first and say things such as “thank you”. These little things do add up to be bigger and bigger things. Without good manners in our life, we are a lesser person than we will otherwise be. We should always be the best we can be and help make the world better for it.
Challenge: Do you pass up opportunities to display your good manners? Every time you have an opportunity and pass it up, you have limited your own growth. To know to do good and not do it; is a damaging and harmful action to you. You have opportunities every day to do good things and to display good manners. Make a serious commitment to do better. You will be the better for it. This is an important part to becoming the better you.
Wisdom: A man’s manners are a mirror in which he shows his portrait. Von Goethe
Blessed are the meek, for they will inherit the earth. Matthew 5:5
A gentle answer turns away wrath, but a harsh word stirs up anger. Proverbs 15:1
Humility and the fear of the Lord bring wealth and honor and life. Proverbs 22:4
The Bible teaches being kind and gentle. We are taught to put the needs of others before our own. This is becoming foreign to the world in which we life. The world may advocate “dog eat dog”, but is contrary to God’s teachings. The more we understand God’s love; the more we experience it in our own lives; the more we will be enabled to allow his love to flow through us. We will be become better witnesses and better examples to others.
Prayer: Help me to do better at being kind, polite, unselfish, patient, and well-mannered today and every day.