Every man, in reality, is two men. The man he is, and the man he could be. E. Nightingale
If you stand straight, do not fear a crooked shadow. Chinese proverb
All behavior consists of opposites. Learn to see things backward, inside out, and upside down. Lao-tzu
The person, who has no inner conflicts, let him or her step forward! Chances are none of us can take that step. The concept of duality is something we should be able to relate to. Most of us are aware of our opposites which pull us in different directions. Good and bad, right and wrong, love and hate, self-confidence and self-doubt, are some examples of the dueling conflicts and struggles we all deal with.
Our dualities cause confusion and discord. We can be a version of Jekyll and Hyde or we may have an angel and devil sitting on our shoulders trying to sway us. We are pulled, pushed, and often tugged in opposite directions. We can feel like Ping-Pong balls as we get pounded back and forth. We can also be like a pinball as we get bounced from one obstacle to another. Sometimes our conflicts can be described as battles between our unselfish and selfish or our higher and lower selves. It is our good, bad, and ugly fighting each other. The more we are compelled to satisfy selfish needs and desires, the more we give in to our lower nature. The more we are at peace inwardly, the freer we are to act unselfishly and lovingly toward others.
It can be hard to respond and be inspired to do things for others, when we are burdened and conflicted within. We are instinctively compelled to satisfy basic needs before we can be sensitive and attentive to the needs of others. Self-issues will normally dominate our attention. We will be pre-occupied and burdened with self-esteem, self-image and other issues until we have sufficiently grown through them and have a more healthy sense of well-being. This requires at least a minimally harmonious relationship within. Until we can experience this needed balance we will really struggle with our ongoing dualities.
We must take time to listen, understand and really know ourselves. It requires we learn to love ourselves unconditionally even though we may not rally like ourselves. We cannot keep weaknesses and shortcomings hidden and locked in the closet; we must bring them out and overcome them. We must learn to be better parents to the child each of us is within. We must learn to practice self-discipline. Those having some success at these things are on the path to living life with more satisfaction and fulfillment in life.
Challenge: Learn to live life from the inside out. Get to know and start overcoming your inner weaknesses. Bring them out into the open and expose them. Be self-disciplined and start making better decisions, one decision at a time. This takes continuous focus. Each time you choose the right thing; you reinforce and increase your ability to do the right thing again and again. Each time you do this you are truly becoming a better you.
Wisdom: It is as though we have two selves or two natures or two wills with two contrary viewpoints. Your lower self sees you as the center of the universe; your higher self sees you as a cell in the body of humanity. Peace Pilgrim
And the peace of God, which transcends all understanding, will guard you hearts and minds in Christ Jesus. Philippians 4:7
The fruit of righteousness will be peace; the effect of righteousness will be quietness and confidence forever. Isaiah 32:17
And this is my prayer: that your love may abound more and more in knowledge and depth of insight. Philippians 1:9
Our true enemy in life is our sinful nature that resides within us. On our own and in our own strength we will never overcome our dark nature. With wisdom and understanding, we can make significant progress in improving our lower and selfish nature. We can only truly overcome and gain freedom from our lower self through God’s power and love manifesting itself deep pwithin us. It is His love and power that can free us.
Prayer: Help me to let go and let you direct my life. You will lead me in the direction that I should go.