Nothing is more disgraceful than insincerity. Cicero
Those who think it is permissible to tell white lies soon grow color-blind. Austin O’Malley
Truth is the most valuable thing we have, so I try to conserve it. Mark Twain
Most of us agree that all lying is unacceptable. It harm others as well as ourselves. Some of us have great difficulty in saying “No!” to something we really do not want to do. We lack having the sufficient strength of character to say the “no” we really want to say. We say “I’ll try” instead.
We think “no”, but either do not want to disappoint or lack the intestinal fortitude to be assertive. The easy way out is to respond by saying, “I’ll try”, even though there is no serious intent to follow through. We do not even intend to really try. The truth is this is a form of dishonesty and lying. If lying is defined as not being truthful, then to say, “I’ll try” when you really mean “no” is lying.
This may not be the worst form of deceit, but a lie is a lie. Our intent is not necessarily malicious; however, it is a definite and undesirable character flaw. Maybe equally important to the lie and of great concern is why we are unable to say “no’. Many of us have difficulty with this. The core of the problem is likely caused by a lack of self-esteem and self-respect. In colloquial words it is showing a lack of “backbone”. This weakness will likely manifest itself in other various ways; such as indecisiveness, feelings of inadequacy and poor self-confidence. Those of us with these type issues need to work on strengthening our character, personality and integrity.
We have being told “I’ll try” many times by many individuals. We did not know any better; actually believed them and were disappointed because they failed to deliver. Too many do not think twice about doing this. Some of them never meant to try. Is the same true of us? How many have we hurt doing this? Shame on us.
Our goal should always be honesty and integrity. We should be mindful of making sure “yes” means yes and “no” mean no. “I’ll try” should mean exactly that. If we tell someone we will try, it needs to be sincere. If it is not, we have likely just lied. These type weaknesses are “slippery slope” issues. Once we slip up once, it is easier to slip again and again. Holding ourselves accountable to the very high standard of keeping our word is an extremely important thing for us to do.
Challenge: Be very conscious of saying “I’ll try”. In your heart, if your answer is “no”, say “no’. Hold yourself accountable to high values and principles. Your integrity is damaged whenever you are not truthful. If you respond with “I’ll try”, make sure your intent is to make every effort to deliver. You have given your word. “I’ll try” means “I will try”. If this is a problem for you, there are some inner issues that seriously need addressing.
Wisdom: The great enemy of clear language is insincerity. George Orwell
I can do all things through him who gives me strength. Philippians 4:13
In all these things we are more than conquerors through Him who loves us. Romans 8:37
Trust in the Lord with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding; in all your ways acknowledge him, and he will make your paths straight. Proverbs 3:5, 6
In our own strength we are weak and give in to all kinds of temptations to do things we should not do, not do things we should do, and give less than our best effort. It is hard holding ourselves to high standards of honesty and integrity. When we fall short, it reinforces our poor self-image. It becomes a closed loop and self-fulfilling. We expect to fall short and therefore we fall short. God can deliver us from this. We must ask Him to help us.
Prayer: Help me to have love, courage, integrity, and honesty. Help me to do what I should and must do.