Self-Issues

HeronAll of the various self-hyphenated words which describe issues that we have with ourselves that hamper healthy living

The highest and most profitable learning is the knowledge of ourselves.  Thomas Kempis

The most difficult thing in life is to know yourself…  Thales   

Unless we are in love with ourselves, we have no love to offer anyone else.  Walter Starcke

We enjoy being around people we like and try to avoid those we do not like. We like being around people who make us feel good and avoid those that cause us to feel bad. When we have to be around those we do not like, it makes us uncomfortable. Many of us are forced to be around someone we are uncomfortable with; our self. We make our self uncomfortable and would prefer to be somewhere else if we could. We have two selves, an inner and an outer. They are inseparably joined together twenty four hours per day and seven days per week.

We are like Siamese twins joined at the hip. The inner us is our true self. It is the core of our self- relationships:  self-esteem, self-control, self-respect, selfishness, self-confidence, self-discipline, and numerous others. All of these phrases describe various aspects of how we relate to and perceive our inner natures. We are forced to be continuously with our inner self and as a result get to know ourselves very well. We know our weaknesses, undesirable characteristics, blemishes, warts and faults. We typically do not like much of what we see. Most of us know our inner selves all too well. We mask and hide our feelings about self. We know about our dirty linen, skeletons, and dark secrets. This causes us to dislike, hate and even despise our self, andcan cause some rather serious problems. Even if we only dislike our self, we are likely to have significant problems. We cannot get out of this relationship. We are stuck and must to learn to live in harmony with our imperfections and faults. We all have some self-issues. The answer is to learn to be at peace, knowing what we know. We must learn to love our self and to become self-forgiving. We must learn to love our inner person unconditionally just as we love our spouse, children, or parents. We chose to love them even with all their faults. We are able to love our friends and loved ones even though there are things we do not like.

We must learn to love our self, if we are to have maximum well-being. When we are able to do this, we are on the road to self-improvement. We are the way to finding more joy and happiness. This is something we must do.

Challenge:  List the undesirable things you know about you. You may wonder why you do not hate yourself with so many faults and weaknesses. Learn to overcome this. It must be done. You must learn to love yourself unconditionally if you are to be healthy and fully functioning. You love your children unconditionally even with all their faults. They need your love. Learn to love the child that resides within you unconditionally as well.

Wisdom: The biggest obstacle to happiness is lack of self-esteem. People who lack an internal sense of self-value, self-respect and self-worth become very ego-centric.  Robert Schuller

Spiritual: (NIV)

Those who belong to Christ Jesus have crucified the sinful nature with its passions and desires.  Galatians 5:24

I can do all things through Christ who gives me strength.  Philippians 4:13

Yet in all these things we are more than conquerors through him who loved us.  Romans 8:37

If we can be assured that God loves us despite all the things that are unlovable about us, then we can learn to love our self. The most important and absolute truth in the universe is that God loves us. He is our Heaven Father. His love is perfection. It is so perfect that He willing died for us to save us from our sins. We can accept his loving grace and enter into a right relationship with Him. God does want us to have a healthy and happy life.

Prayer:  If you can find reason to love me, then this should be reason enough for me to love me.

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