When negative emotions are running high, one rarely makes the best decisions. Anon.
When a man is prey to his emotions, he is not his master. Baruch Spinoza
The principal use of prudence, of self control, is that it teaches us to be masters of our emotions… Rene Descartes
How we react emotionally to things that happen is very much a part of who we are. Defense mechanisms, barriers and our outer core are often bypassed when our emotions get activated. It is a time when we come so much closer to revealing our true nature and our naked unprotected inner selves. We expose who we really are.
Even the strongest and hardcore exteriors of many individuals make way to a softer, more vulnerable interior. In many respects our inner vulnerable childlike nature is displayed. Some reveal their emotions easily while others are less prone to do so. Emotional reactions are spontaneous outpourings of our subconscious nature.
When we react emotionally we are in a manner, reacting out of control. Using a very graphic analogy, we are throwing up emotionally. It is an involuntary reaction, something triggers an emotional reaction and we are unable to prevent it from happening. Often we try to repress emotional outbursts, but we are unable to; it pours forth no mater what we try to do. The nature of the event is able to penetrate our defenses and overwhelm us.
Some consider it weakness to react emotionally. It is a time of vulnerability. We often are at our worst under emotional stress. Those unable to control their temper often allow rage to overwhelm them. Others let tears flow like a human version of Niagara Falls. We should learn to control our emotions but not necessarily totally repress them. It is not good to lose our temper, but is not healthy to totally repress our emotions. Men and women are different when it comes to their emotions. There is nothing intrinsically good or bad about our emotions. It is a physiological aspect of our true nature. Our emotions do need proper forms for expressing themselves.
We do not perform at our best by reacting more to feelings than to facts and reasoning. Some of our worst decisions occur under emotional strain. Important decisions should not be made during periods of undue stress; they should be postponed until we are more rational. We should not expect others to be at their best when they are emotionally strained. Learning to express emotions in ways that are proper and desirable is healthy. It is not healthy to hide them and repress them, they will eventually find expression. The ideal is to be in control of them.
Challenge: You should be aware when you are emotionally stressed. Avoid making significant decisions during these time periods. Avoid emotional outbursts. Do not allow emotional eruptions to negatively affect your relationships with others. Find ways to provide healthy opportunities to vent frustrations and stress. Allow others to reach out to you when you are in need of reassurance and compassion. Learn to control your emotions.
Wisdom: Emotions are the color of life; we would be drab creatures indeed without them. But we must control these emotions or they will control us… John M Wilson
For if ye forgive men their trespasses, your heavenly Father will also forgive you. Matthew 6:14
He healeth the broken in heart and bindeth up their wounds. Psalm 147:3
A righteous man may have many troubles, but the Lord delivers him from them all. Psalm 34:19
Our true self resides inside. It reveals itself when we are stressed and emotionally reacts to things that happen. We may lose our temper; rant and rave; or may break down and cry like a baby. We may even do both. The point is that we have opened up and revealed our vulnerabilities to the world. We may try to hide our true self from the world. We cannot hide ourselves from God. He totally knows us and will help us if we will ask him. He loves us.
Prayer: Help me to draw the strength I need from you when I am too weak to deal with life’s challenges.