Instead of pointing a finger, we should hold out our hand. Henry Drummond
When you point your finger at someone, three fingers are pointing back at you. Anonymous
Go to the mirror, form your fist with your index finger pointing out, and point it directly into the mirror. You are now looking at the person who is to blame. In case there was ever any doubt, all uncertainty is removed. The person who is primarily responsible and accountable for your lot in life is there staring at you. It is you!
The sooner we learn some truths about life and some of its tougher issues, the more we can get down to business and get serious about improving our personal situation. Until we have grown and matured enough to know that we should be pointing the finger of responsibility at ourselves instead of others, and especially not at our parents, we are mentally immature and have much to learn before we can be considered mature. These words are profound and absolutely true. Can we stand the truth?
For some of us it is like a light bulb suddenly coming on, “aha”, we finally get it; we are responsible. We have been wasting time and energy; wallowing in mediocrity, blaming our situation, our shortcomings, problems, disappointments and everything that is wrong on everything possible but the very person looking at us in the mirror. For some, after years of slow and steady deliberation; it suddenly dawns, that pointing the finger at others is an excuse, a stall tactic, a defense mechanism and definitely a sign of immaturity. As long as we continue to point, we avoid accepting responsibility. The problem is on the bottom end of the finger and not the tip end. When we start pointing at ourselves instead of at others, it means we have had a major awakening in life.
Rule number one of personal problem solving is to realize that we have a problem. When we realize we are the cause of most of our problems; it is a tremendous first step. We are to be applauded. This is a sign that we are reaching maturity. Before we get too caught up in self-adulation, it is an important step, but it is only a step.
It is one thing to know the truth. It is a greater thing to do something with it. Armed with this wisdom, it becomes very important for us to be brutally honest as to what personal responsibility really means; not least of which means we have lost our primary excuse.
Challenge: If you can truly accept personal responsibility for yourself, you are more mature than most. One of society’s greatest weaknesses is lack of personal accountability and responsibility. The key is to take all the energies directed at blame and criticism and turn them into positive energy directed toward moving forward. There is no time for blame and criticism. Recognize this for the waste it is. Make a little positive progress daily.
Wisdom: The best years of your life are the ones in which you decide your problems are your own. You do not blame them on your mother, the ecology, or the president. You realize that you control your own destiny. Albert Ellis
To the man who pleases him, God gives wisdom, knowledge and happiness. Ecclesiastes 2:26
The unfolding of your words gives light; it gives understanding to the simple. Psalm 119:130
Tell the righteous it will be well with them, for they will enjoy the fruit of their deeds. Isaiah 3:10
The Bible makes no bones about it, we will be held accountable and responsible. Blaming it on the Devil or our parent’s shortcomings does not give us a pass. Many try to pass through life, blaming everything that is wrong in their lives and everything that is wrong about themselves on everything but themselves. This fact is personal responsibility and accountability is a core issue. God will help us if we really want to do something about this.
Prayer: Help me to stop blaming and become better at finding solutions instead of being a part of the problem.