Comfort Zone

DSCN0648The place, mental or physical, where we feel safe, secure; unthreatened

Our comfort zone is a form of self-imposed imprisonment. We keep ourselves locked up. Randall Burkhalter   

Move out of your comfort zone. You can only grow if you are willing to feel awkward and uncomfortable when you try something new. Brian Tracy

To the degree we’re not living our dreams, our comfort zone has more control of us than we have over ourselves. Peter McWilliams  

Comfort zones are adult versions of security blankets. We all have one and carry it around just as Linus does in Peanuts cartoons. Security blankets are like substitute mothers. They give comfort and provide feelings of safety and security, much as our mothers did for us.

There is a time when we should leave our childhood nests. It should be when we are no longer dependent on mothers or security blankets for our security and are ready for independence. However, even then, most of us continue to have difficulty venturing very far from our feelings of being safe and secure. Creating and maintaining a comfort zone replaces our security blanket and our mother.

It is ‘the’ place where we feel the most comfortable and the least insecure. Fundamentally, we have a great need to feel safe and secure, but we become handicapped if we spend too much time in our comfort zone and never leave it. We become much like the child who is overly dependent upon its mother, too afraid to do anything on its own. There is a very significant correlation between the dependency we have to our comfort zones and the amount of growth and development we will experience. Spend too much time in our comfort zone and we will never become all that we can become. We will fall short of achieving our potential.

We grow and develop in direct correlation to our living, learning, growing and experiencing new things. We have to take risks; meaning risking falling down and skinning our knees. Increasingly, we have to be willing to go further and further distances from the safety and security of our comfort zone. The further out we venture and return safely home, the more comfortable we become venturing even further and further. We must have the self-discipline and self-motivation it takes to do this. Continuing to do the same things as we have always done and in the same manner as they have always been done, results in little or no growth.

We need to be a mature adult and a good parent to ourselves and make sure we do travel outside of our comfort zone regularly. It is like a safari; an adventure that is sure to expand our experience, consciousness and our understanding. Each trip causes us to grow and develop more into the wonderful creation we are meant to be.

Challenge:  You continue to have ‘parenting’ needs in your life. It is something you must do for yourself. Growing and developing is part of life’s process. Do not become stagnant and complacent. If you are not actively involved in growing and developing the potential within, you are shirking an important responsibility to yourself. Everyday make a commitment to go outside the confines of your comfort zone and grow and develop even more.

Wisdom: If you put yourself in a position where you have to stretch outside your comfort zone, then you are forced to expand your consciousness. Les Brown

Spiritual: (NIV)

If any of you lacks wisdom, he should ask God, who gives generously to all without finding fault, and it will be given to him. James 1:5               

For God did not give us a spirit of timidity, but a spirit of power, of love and of self-discipline. 2 Timothy 1:7

I can do all things through Christ who gives me strength. Philippians 4:13

We will always have the need for feelings of safety and security. The ultimate comfort zone and the perfect security blanket comes from God. He is the Perfect Parent. It is his great desire for us to grow and to develop into the wonderful creation He designed us to be. As long as we continue to try to stumble through life on our own and without his help, we will fall miserably short. He not only enables us, but He protects us in the process.

Prayer:  Help me to let go and let You coach, teach, and develop me into what You have designed me to be.


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