Self-Talk

DSCN0451Inner dialogue with ourselves; can be used for constructive or destructive purposes

Self-suggestion makes you master of yourself. W Clement Stone

The more man meditates upon good thoughts, the better will be his world and the world at large. Confucius

The inner speech, your thoughts, can cause you to be rich or poor, loved or unloved, happy or unhappy, attractive or unattractive, powerful or weak. Ralph Charell

Most of us engage in self-talk. It is normal. It is as if there is more than one person inside us. There are two parts to us. There is our conscious, physical self that communicates with the outside world. Then there is the inner-self that is internal and engages in “self-talk”. Our self-talk is private and hidden from the outside world.

These two selves communicate with each other at all times. Sometimes, they are quiet and we are unaware of their dialogues; at other times their exchanges are obvious and get our attention.  It can be like the image we have of a little devil on one shoulder and a little angel on the other, each trying to get our attention. Sometimes self-talk entails and exhibits our conscience. It tries to speak to us when we face temptations. We normally consider this to be a good and beneficial voice. Often we ignore it and listen to the devil who is without a conscience. Ideally self-talk should encourage us, help us to think things through, and to make better decisions.

We often find ourselves in situations that are brand new to us, where we may be uncomfortable and fearful. We tend to avoid the things that makes us uncomfortable; especially, in situations where we are unclear as to what we should do. Our self-talk can be a good and useful thing. It can help us in our decision making and encourages us to take action and make good decisions. It can motivate and gives us the discipline to do something that takes us outside our comfort zone. It is good to have an inner ally always on alert and standing ready to encourage us.

‘Self-talk’ can be harmful. It can increase fear, belittle and rob us of confidence. Harmful self-talk should be avoided. Such self-talk is detrimental and must be overcome for us to be growth oriented and proactive. Good self-talk is like a parent, coach, teacher or best friend. They care and encourage us to always give our best.

We should be aware of the quality of our self-talk. If harmful, we need to invest time and effort to change it from the negative to the positive. This is a part of our self-image and self-issues and deals with self-esteem, self-worth, and self-love. It is very hard to have positive self-talk, if we are controlled by a negative self-image.

Challenge:  Self-talk is directly influenced by how you feel about yourself. If you are okay within yourself, your self-talk should be helpful. If not, you have inner issues and a poorer self-image. It may be time to review the nature of your self-talk. Equip yourself with a new and overhauled self-image. It is important to learn to love yourself in healthy and progressive ways. A good self-image will help you to improve the quality of your life.

Wisdom: No man can produce great things who is not thoroughly sincere in dealing with himself.  J R Lowell

Spiritual: (NIV):

If any of you lack wisdom, let him ask of God, who gives to all liberally and without reproach, and it will be given to him.  James 1:5

Commit your works to the Lord, and your thoughts will be established.  Proverbs 16:3

And whatever things you ask in prayer, believing, you will receive.  Matthew 7:7, 8

Self-talk is a powerful force with us. It can cause us major harm or it can help us to move our lives progressively forward. The more we walk with God, the more the Holy Spirit empowers us and influences our self-talk to help us. We will be more empowered to live up to our capabilities. We will grow stronger and stronger and will have the faith and confidence to continue moving forward. Our self-talk can inspire and encourage us.

Prayer:  Help me to overcome myself to become the person You want me to be.

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