The greatest barrier to success is the fear of failure. Sven Eriksson
Whatever you say, say it with conviction. Mark Twain
No one can make you feel inferior without your consent. Eleanor Roosevelt.
Let us look into the concept of confidence. Having faith in one’s self, trusting ourselves, being certain of ourselves; are all meanings associated with having confidence or even better said, “Self-confidence”.
We all have some measure of self-confidence. Obviously, some have more than others. The fact that most of us can drive a car, hold down a job, maintain a home and have a family are but a few examples of exemplifying some degree of confidence. This type of confidence is the same as self-confidence. The truth is that we tend to be self-confident in things we have done and do fairly well. We tend not to be very confident or self-confident in those things that are new to us or in which we lack sufficient experience.
A lack of self-confidence is one thing that holds us back from expanding our horizons and getting us out of our comfort zones. A lack of self-confidence robs us of valuable new growth experiences. To some degree self-confidence is experiential. We get it by and through experiencing new things in our lives. Most of the time, these new experiences cause us to grow and gain confidence in our ability to succeed at new things. As we experience and learn from new things, our degree of self-confidence in ourselves will typically grow as well.
The ideal is we should be able to readily call upon past successful growth and learning experiences to give us the confidence we need to take on new learning and growth experiences that await us or even those that confront or challenge us. Some of us do this rather easily. Some of us have difficulty in taping into our stockpile of self-confidence building experiences that we have had in the past. We allow self-doubt, limiting beliefs, fear of failure and other such fears to keep holding us back.
Self-confidence is an extremely valuable tool that helps us grow and to increasingly become a better version of ourselves. There really is no substitute for it. It is a skill-set that becomes better with the experience gained from using it. It is like a muscle and grows stronger with each use of it. Self-confidence is something all of us need. We should always be learning and challenging ourselves. Avoiding the complacency and stagnancy of too much time spent in our comfort zones is one of the keys to our using it successfully.
Challenge: What have you done that gives you a high degree of self-confidence? What things in your life are associated with low self-confidence? Do you avoid the areas of low self-confidence and concentrate mostly in the areas of high self-confidence? This is true for all of us. You miss major opportunities in your life if you always avoid new challenges. Now is a good time to visit or re-visit something in your life associated with causing low self-confidence. This may not be easy. Take it on and grow through it. Grow your self-confidence.
Wisdom: Go confidently in the direction of your dreams. Live the life you’ve imagined. Thoreau
Now faith is being sure of what we hope for and certain of what we do not see. Hebrews 11:1
We live by faith not by sight. 2 Corinthians 5:7
I can do all this through him who gives me strength. Philippians 4:13
Confidence and faith are similar. Faith comes from confidence. When we have confidence in someone we have faith that they will do what we expect of them. We can lose faith in someone when they let us down. We are human and sometimes we let others down. The kind of faith we can have in someone who will never let us down, is the kind of faith we can have in God. We can trust and believe in Him. He will never ever fail us.
Prayer: Help me to have faith and confidence because You empower me with all that I need.