They hurt themselves that wrong others. Anonymous
He who wrongs one threatens many. Publilius Syrus
Submission to one wrong brings on another. Latin Proverb
Each of us has suffered through all wrongs that have occurred to us. Each of us has committed our share of wrongs to others. We are much better at remembering what has been done to us rather than what we have done to others. What should be our perspectives on the wrongs committed by others to us and by ourselves to others?
We cannot prevent bad things from happening to us. Common sense indicates the most intelligent thing we can do is to minimize the harm and damage done by all wrongs. Generally, the faster we recover from what has happened the better. This may involve doing absolutely nothing. Sometimes, we should forgive and forget, and move on. The ideal involves responding in such a manner that the person committing the wrong becomes penitent and changes themselves for the better. Then both the offender and the victim can grow to a higher level.
Sometimes we want to respond to a wrong by committing a wrong; “an eye for an eye”. “Two wrongs do not make a right” is profoundly true. When we respond to a wrong with a wrong, then we are likely hurting ourselves more than the harm we suffered in the first place. Someone verbally assaults us, do we respond with a verbal assault of more magnitude than theirs? It is perverse to think what we did was proper. We likely dragged ourselves down to a very low level. We should make a conscious and careful decision as to what we should do. If we do what is morally right and good, we will avoid responding to a wrong with a wrong. Even though the person committing the wrong has not done what was morally right and good, they have to live with their own consequences. We may have been wronged, but as of yet, we have not acted wrongly by retaliating.
We should respond to wrongs with a right. We should be driven and motivated by the Golden Rule. We should treat others as we want to be treated. This would mandate responding to wrongs with goodness and kindness. This is a tall and tough task to live up to. It is easier said than done. This should be our goal. At the very least, we should avoid responding in a wrongful manner. Do not respond wrong for wrong, let it go, grow through it.
Challenge: Minimize the wrongful damage done to you by avoiding doing wrongful actions yourself. Also, minimize creating having emotional baggage. Forgive and forget! You will be better for it. If your goal is to truly stretch for personal growth and development, respond by applying the Golden Rule. Next time someone wrongs you, delay your response, do not respond automatically. Instead, try to respond to their wrong with your good.
Wisdom: If thy brother wrongs thee, remember not so much his wrong-doing, but more than ever that he is thy brother. Epictetus
Keep your tongue from evil and your lips from spreading lies. Psalm 34:13
Dear friends, since God so loved us, we also ought to love one another. 1 John 4:11
For if you forgive men when they sin against you, your heavenly Father will also forgive you. Matthew 6:14
The ways of the world are contrary to the Golden Rule. “Dog eat dog” is more the rule than the exception. God’s ways are opposite of worldly ways. When someone offends or wrongs us, we are to forgive them. This is strongly taught in the Bible. It also, teaches that will be judged in the same manner in which we judge others. This tells us that there are consequences to our actions. If the Bible speaks the truth, then it is rather obvious that our wrong actions will come back upon us. It is only with God’s help we can overcome the ways of the world.
Prayer: Give me the strength and wisdom to be able to love others as You love me.