The greatest of faults, I should say, is to be conscious of none. Thomas Carlyle
To find fault is easy; to do better may be difficult. Plutarch
Our shortcomings and weaknesses must be recognized and turned into our strengths if we are to reach our potential. Randall Burkhalter
As hard as it may be to believe; every one of us has shortcomings and flaws. None are perfect, either in appearance, behavior, or thought processes. Most of us are all too well aware of our own shortcomings.
Some do seem clueless to their faults; as obvious as they are; how can they not know? Some know, but go to great lengths to hide and cover them up. Others are aware of their shortcomings, honestly admit them, and put considerable effort into overcoming them. Whatever, we try to hide or cover up, we start building defense mechanisms and other self-deceptions; putting forth a phony image trying to deceive others as well as ourselves.
It is healthy to admit to our imperfections. It is a part of building some real self-respect. Others will also respect us if we are open and honest. We do not need to go around broadcasting our weaknesses and flaws, but we should avoid presenting ourselves as something we are not. People will ultimately see through our façade and label us as “fake”. An old saying says “honesty is the best policy”. Our problems do not go away, they need “fixing”. If our car’s engine is making noises, “avoidance” only leads to greater problems.
Our inner-self is capable of perceiving truth from fiction. When we lie to cover up the truth, our conscience knows the difference. How can we respect ourselves, when we know we are lying? Good mental health starts with self-honesty. We all have our fair share of shortcomings, weaknesses, flaws and quirks. Often they are not nearly as bad as we may think they are.
Some of our shortcomings do need addressing. The first step in problem solving; is to admit having a problem. This gets us on the road to self-improvement. It should go something like; identify the problem, analyze it, visualize what it would be like to not have it, and start taking steps to correct it. If it is a “shortcoming” that is “physical”, we need to accept and adapt to it, and build our life around it; overcoming it to the best of our abilities. Hiding from inner-issues is always unacceptable. We should be proactive, not reactive; on the offense and not defensive. We should live openly and honestly and not hide from the truth. We should get good at turning our weaknesses into strengths and keep on growing.
Challenge: If you are unaware of your shortcomings, ask a friend or relative. They love you despite your flaws and will want to help you. Listen to what they have to say and take it all in. Make a top ten list. Select those that stand out to you as the highest priority. The first step is to honestly admit these shortcomings exist and take the time for corrective action. Start working on some of your shortcomings. Try to make a little progress every day.
Wisdom: The man, who cannot endure to have his errors and shortcomings brought to the surface and made known, but tries to hide them, is unfit to walk the highway of truth. James Allen
Now faith is being sure of what we hope for and certain of what we do not see. Hebrews 11:1
For God did not give us a spirit of timidity, but a spirit of power, of love and of self-discipline. 2 Timothy 1:7
But seek first his kingdom and his righteousness, and all these things will be given to you as well. Matthew 6:33
Until we honestly admit that we are “flawed” and do have problems that need addressing, we are not likely to make much progress in fixing them. Once we gain the strength and courage to do this we are on the way to improvement. We can make some significant progress on these issues on our own, but only a limited amount. Eventually, we start running into obstacles too big to overcome. God is there waiting and willing to help us.
Prayer: Help me to know my weaknesses as You know them. Give me the strength and courage to overcome.