Selfishness is the greatest curse of the human race”. William Gladstone
The “me syndrome” reminds us of those who have some crossed wires in their makeup. Their world centers on the perspective of “me” or “I”. They are trapped inside self-imposed dungeons, wishing they could come out and be like others. They need and want to be liked and feel loved and never quite got the hang of it.
We remember children who had issues, those not properly nurtured or who had various personality issues. As adults, some still have significant well-being issues, including those suffering “Me” syndrome. They are insecure and need to be the center of attention. Everything is about them; sharing or giving is difficult. They say “me” and “I” endlessly. Their world revolves around them. What happened or did not happen to make them this way?
If we happen to be one of those kids, have we overcome our inadequacies or do they linger? Chances are some of us still have some issues relating to the “me syndrome”. The more insecure we are the more it may apply. How many of us have self-love and well-being issues? This starts with a faulty sense of self-esteem and gets down to including how lovable and worthwhile do we feel or not feel. The more we suffered childhood inadequacies; the more this may continue to be an issue today. It may be “lingering”. Not having developed a healthy sense of self-love or self-esteem can lead to a laundry list of “me” issues such as sharing and giving, relationship issues, anger, confidence, doubt, fear, and more. The more difficulty we have had in loving and accepting “me”, the greater the difficulty and dysfunction we may have in being healthy functioning adults.
Hopefully, we successfully acquired the basic ingredients for a healthy self-image during childhood. Parents, environment, and our genetic makeup all played their parts. If it worked out well, great! If it did not come together as it should have, we continue to have some needs and issues that are haunting and handicapping us. It is time to take the bull by the horns and do something. If we are aware of our inadequacies, we are on the way. We can still address our self-limiting issues and make significant progress. It requires that we learn to truly love ourselves unconditionally. To free ourselves from ourselves, this is the most important thing we can ever do.
Challenge: Are you confident and secure or insecure and self-doubting? Do you feel loved; do you love yourself? Can you truly listen intently to others instead of talking about “me” or “I”? Can you give of yourself with no expectations of anything in return? These things indicate how you feel about yourself. The more secure you are, the more you can do, give, and think about others. You may need to take some “self- love” lessons?
Wisdom: The most terrible poverty is loneliness, and the feeling of being unloved. Mother Teresa
I will instruct you and teach you in the way you should go; I will counsel you and watch over you. Ps: 32:8
Trust in the Lord with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding; in all your ways acknowledge him, and he will make your paths straight. Proverbs 3:5-6
But seek first his kingdom and his righteousness, and all these things will be given to you as well. Matt: 6:33
The best solution for anything that ails us when it comes to our security and well being is our relationship with God. As we grow, understand and experience God’s love, he helps us to overcome our fears, doubts, concerns; all the inadequacies that keep us from being who he intends us to be. He designed us to share, listen, help, and to make a difference in the lives of those around us. If God can love us we can truly love ourselves.
Prayer: Help me to allow your love to eradicate the doubts and fears from inside me.