DSCN0336Forever, absolutely not going to happen, zero possibility, a very long time, gone and not to come back again, not ever, at no time, absolutely not

Lost time is never found again. Benjamin Franklin

Winners never quit and quitters never win. .Vince Lombardi

Don’t wait. The time will never be just right. Napoleon Hill

Never is forever. By definition never is absolute; it makes no provision for any possibility. Very often, the concept of never carries with it negative connotations. We should be very careful in how we conceive and think about “never” and the lasting impact it may have. It may be harmful to our well-being and our relationships.

We use “never” in our daily language without even thinking about what we are saying. Often as not, the odds are against never ever occurring. We have said such things as “I will never talk to that person again;” “I will never go back there again;” or “I will never forgive you.” These are absolute statements. Sometimes by making such statements we are backing ourselves into an undesirable corner. We may live to regret what we have said and there may a price we will have to pay for saying “never”. We should be careful to avoid such statements.

The wise among us are careful and deliberate in what they say and mean. They do not go overboard or too far in making their points. Most of the time, it is a very bad idea to burn all our bridges behind us. It is a good idea to always try to leave ourselves a little wiggle room or a way to retreat when necessary. It is good to remember and practice never saying “never.” It will save a lot of headaches, embarrassments, and having to eat crow.

There is a positive side of the concept of never. It can be used to foster determination and perseverance. Believing in never quitting or in giving up can give us the little extra that sometimes sees us through obstacles and disappointments. It empowers us to think in terms of no retreat or surrender. It supports the idea of paying the price whatever it may be. This reminds us of such individuals as Martin Luther King, Jr., Mahatma Gandhi and Thomas Edison. Quitting was not a concept they embraced. They turned the idea of never around. The old way or “status quo” was “never” acceptable to them.  Quitting or giving up was never going to happen.

The lesson to be learned is to be careful and cautious in how we think of “never”.  We should never use it carelessly and only use it to motivate and inspire us to think in terms of never quitting or giving up.

Challenge: Never say “never,” should be something that reminds you to be careful in what you say and what you really mean. It should help you to be more articulate and careful with your words. Do not say things that you may later regret. Say what you mean and mean what you say. Be aware that you can use the concept of never to motive and inspire you. If something is really worthwhile, never quit, persevere through until you are victorious.

Wisdom: Beware of making absolute statements. They often come back to haunt you. Randall Burkhalter

Spiritual: (NIV)

Do not be quickly provoked in your spirit, for anger resides in the lap of fools. Ecclesiastes 7:9

A man’s wisdom gives him patience; it is to his glory to overlook an offense. Proverbs 19:11

You need to persevere so that when you have done the will of God, you will receive what he has promised. Hebrews 10:36

We should be very careful about the concept of never. We should always remember that God is sovereign and controls time and everything within it. In our limited capacities and abilities we do not know what is going to happen tomorrow or much less a year or many years from now. In our foolishness and arrogance we get carried away with our sense of supremacy and power. The wise look to God and trust him. It makes life so much easier.

Prayer: Help me to be more patient, calm and perseverant. May my faith and confidence continue grow in You.


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