Wrong understanding, misunderstanding, wrong assumptions,
We are infected by our own misunderstanding of how our own minds work. Kevin Kelly
Most quarrels amplify a misunderstanding. Andre Gide
Shallow understanding from people of good will is more frustrating than absolute misunderstanding from people of ill will. Martin Luther King, Jr.
If the truth were known, it may be that many of us are going about our day to day activities with more misconceptions about things and life than what we have that is accurate and true. All of us are the cumulative accumulation of what we have seen and experienced. We are limited by this. Some of our accumulation is less than totally accurate and we are going about life with voids, gaps, blinders and errors in our understanding.
There are things we know, things we know that we do not know, things we think we know but do not know, and there are things we do not know we do not know. This boils down to: there is that which we do not know combined with that which we think we know that comprise misconceptions and errors. This should cause us to be much more careful and cautious about lots of things in our lives, especially in dealing with others. This should be enough to cause us to be humble and cautious in the things we say and do. We all know the admonitions associated with being overly critical of others when we have limited insights into their situations. It is easy to find fault and be overly critical. It is easier to look for and find justifications of our tendencies of being critical than it is to give others benefit of the doubt. It is too easy to have our feelings hurt and be offended. Often times there are inaccuracies and misconceptions that are affecting us.
Our tendencies and inclinations should be more toward affirming, supporting and giving benefit of doubt than toward criticizing and looking for the bad. This is part of the Golden Rule. If one of the natural laws of this world is we get in return that we give. We may get in direct proportion of the criticisms, negative thoughts, selfishness, un-politeness, lack of forgiveness, kindness, brotherly love and benefit of the doubt we give. The consequences speak for themselves.
Is there poetic justice? Do we get what we give? We may have too many misconceptions and because of this often times may be misguided in our thoughts and actions. If we are going to err, maybe we should err on the better side of the equation.
Challenge: It is easy to find fault? What would it take to be more tolerant of others? Others say things that trigger undesirable sentiments? There are issues of cause and effect, stimulus and response, and hot buttons that are hard to resist. There are always things you do not know. The “better you” results in not only controlling words and actions, but thoughts as well. Always seek to be bigger and better than your circumstances.
Wisdom: Criticism is a misconception: we must read not to understand others but to understand ourselves. Emile M. Cioran
The fruit of righteousness will be peace; the effect of righteousness will be quietness and confidence forever. Isaiah 32:17
You need to persevere so that when you have done the will of God, you will receive what he has promised. Hebrews 10:36
I can do all things through Christ who gives me strength. Philippians 4:13
The best attitude is always based on a spirit of love. Anytime we think, say, or act with any motive that is lacking in love, very likely we are going down the wrong road. Not only are we likely to find ourselves hurting others, intended or not, we have probably harmed ourselves more than any others we may harm. The Bible most prominent theme and teaching is about love. The secular world lacks true love. True love comes from God.
Prayer: Help me to overcome a lack of love in my life. Help me to look to You to enable me to truly love.