Bad feelings, ill intent, lack of love and concern
Our attitude toward life determines life’s attitude towards us. Earl Nightingale
Forgiveness is how we put a stop to anger, ill-will and a desire for revenge. Dalai Lama
Shallow understanding from people of good will is more frustrating than absolute misunderstanding from people of ill will. Martin L. King, Jr.
We are responsible for any ill will we display or unleash toward others. When it gets down to it, we either choose to have ill-will or are at the mercy of our bad wiring or plumbing within us that allows ill will to exist.
As adults we are responsible and accountable for how we manage ourselves each and every day we live. We are responsible for all our attitudes and inner issues. Whatever the events are and the inner workings within us are that create or do not create any ill will toward others is something we are responsible for. It is a given that as children we are under the influence, guidance and instructions of our parents and other adults. When we become adults we become responsible for what we do or do not do, what we think or do not think, and definitely all our actions and words involving others. It may be that our upbringing was less than ideal, our role models may have left something to be desired; we may have had misfortune and more than our share of hardships. Our actions and reactions to others, is not excused or becomes acceptable because of all the things in our live that were less than perfect. Ill will is almost always undesirable. It represents within us weak, misaligned, immature or faulty mental processes allowing us to wish or want bad or undesirable things for others. It is the antithesis of the Golden Rule. It is the same as wanting harm or hurt toward others because we somehow believe it is what they deserve. Ill will is akin to “an eye for an eye”, getting even, or getting back. It is judgmental. Ill will is incompatible with loving and caring concern. It is a rationalization and justification that our ill will is giving someone what they really deserve. They may have displayed ill will toward us and therefore deserve our ill will in return. Depending upon where we want to be on the ladder of maturity and development, the sanctioning of “ill will” marks us as poorly developed and immature adults. We have issues.
Such things as the Golden Rule, “if you cannot say something good”, “what goes around comes around”, poetic justice and many more exemplify and contrast the consequences of having ill will. We should want to be above and beyond having any ill will.
Challenge: Unkind thoughts and actions you may have are probably always wrong. Someone may or may not have been unkind or wronged you. Wrongs to us usually do not warrant doing the same in return. If your goal is to be as mature and developed as you possibly can, you should desire being able to forgive and forget, look the other way, and be above such things. You cannot become your best by giving in to such things. Be above it.
Wisdom: Here is a mental treatment guaranteed to cure every ill that flesh is heir to: sit for half an hour every night and mentally forgive everyone against whom you have any ill will or antipathy. Charles Fillmore
The fruit of righteousness will be peace; the effect of righteousness will be quietness and confidence forever. Isaiah 32:17
You need to persevere so that when you have done the will of God, you will receive what he has promised. Hebrews 10:36
A hot-tempered man stirs up dissension, but a patient man calms a quarrel. Proverbs 15:18
The concept of having ill will is not compatible with a loving and caring attitude toward others. The ways of the world make plenty of room for practicing and engaging in ill will. The Bible teaches that we should love our neighbor as our self. Ill will means we are incomplete and lacking in our inner core. Overcoming such a thing is something we cannot totally do our own. It is another thing in our life where we need God’s help to overcome.
Prayer: Help me to overcome my unloving ways and help me to have a more loving and caring attitude.