St. Louis the CrusaderAchieving victory, finishing first, beating competition; achieving success

Show class, have pride, and display character. If you do, winning takes care of itself. Paul Bryant

A champion needs a motivation above and beyond winning. Pat Riley

He will win who knows when to fight and when not to fight. Sun Tzu

Usually in competition there is a declared winner and a loser. Most of us do desire to win when we compete. We deal with people in all types of relationships and in many aspects of our lives. We often engage in activities where both parties seek desired outcomes. When we are dealing or working with others we should seek  Win/Win relationships. Some are driven too much by a Win/Lose approach: “In order for me to win, you must lose.” The problem with this is we might seem to win in the “material” and “external” way, but we may really lose when it comes to character, integrity and the Golden Rule. If we are dishonest, manipulative or take advantage of someone because they are vulnerable, are we really a winner? We really did not “win” in the most important way, because we have damaged ourselves internally. Our inner core has been damaged because we acted in a lesser and more undesirable way than the principled and person of character way we should have acted. The better approach is to seek a “win/win” outcome, meaning that both parties can and should benefit.

If I can help you meet your needs and you can help me meet my needs, is that not a good thing? Do we both “win”? This is “win/win”. I can feel good about myself because I know I did the right thing. You can feel good about yourself. In order to be the best we can be: it is essential for us to approach our relationships and our dealings with others with a win/win type of philosophy. In many ways, the manner in which we should manage or control ourselves in our day to day activities is very analogous to the win/win philosophy. We should think of ourselves at two parts: external and internal aspects that combine to make us a whole person. Whatever actions we decide to take should always result in both parts of us coming together as a winner. If we do something to win on the outside, but took advantage of someone or was dishonest, we really have lost overall on the inside.

Whenever we deal and interact with others, we are dealing and interacting with ourselves as well. We can and should seek win/win outcomes with those we deal with and should seek a win/win relationships within our self.

Challenge: An attitude of winning at all costs is not an attitude that coincides or coexists well with a goal to become the best that you can become. You cannot be all that you can be if you are not governed by the Golden Rule. It should not be “What’s in it for me”? It should be how can both of us benefit? It does not have to always be where you are the only winner and someone else is the loser. The goal should always be to try to have two winners; yourself and someone else.

Wisdom: About the only time losing is more fun than winning is when you’re fighting temptation. Tom Wilson

Spiritual: (NIV)

Nay, in all these things we are more than conquerors though him that loved us. Roman 8:37

But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness and self-control. Galatians 5:22-23

I can do all things through Christ who gives me strength. Philippians 4:13

The best attitude for life is a spirit of love. Its allows us to rise above conditions and be more in control of our thoughts and actions and less reactive to them. Those who seem to have it together have loving attitudes about life and how to live it. The love that allows us to rise above life comes from God. His love living in us will empower us. We will always be very limited without God’s Love guiding us. Our greatest need is his love.

Prayer: Help me to overcome my selfishness and to have a more loving attitude. Empower me to love.


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