Friends

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The only way to have a friend is to be one. Ralph Waldo Emerson 

Real friendship is shown in times of trouble; prosperity is full of friends. Euripides 

Your friend is the man who knows all about you, and still likes you. Elbert Hubbard 

Having friends is truly a blessing. They are one of our most precious possessions and worth their “weight in gold”. They are priceless. Living life without friends is missing out on one of life’s greatest experiences.

There are friends who are acquaintances and there are friends who truly love and care for us. A true friend is someone who is there for you, hurts when you hurt, and gives you their love.  They are as close to you as any family member and in many cases closer. In the movie, Brian’s Song, Gayle Sayers and Brian Piccolo, one black and one white, is a heart-warming story of two football players who became best friends. They support and care for each other through many adversities including Piccolo’s death due to cancer. We can lose friends due to death, through life’s changes, and sometimes because we take them for granted, abuse or neglect them. Friendship is very much a two-way street. It is not one-sided.

Friendship is an investment; requiring time and effort. Ground rules and expectations get established as the friendship is being formed. Often this takes place unconsciously and without words. It is as if an unwritten but “binding” contract has been put into force. Both parties are often willing to risk their egos, vulnerabilities and even their most intimate and personal secrets. Friends can open up and be themselves because of their trust relationship. Pretenses, arrogance, conceit, lying, and other undesirable behaviors should not exist between true friends. If this is not the case, it is less than true friendship. Friends do not take advantage of each other.

True friends are willing to forgive and forget; and can go more than halfway for each other. Friendships require attention and maintenance. Friends give equally and receive equally. If this does not occur, it is less than an ideal friendship. Both should be giving, supporting, encouraging, and totally trusting of each other.

It is very good to have someone with whom we can talk about anything; be our self; “let down our hair” and defenses; and whose advice we know is given in our best interest. We should value and treasure such precious relationships. They help make life more rewarding. Getting and making true friends involves taking risks. A wise adage says to get a friend be a friend. Everyone needs such friends. It is well worth the effort.

Challenge: Are you as thankful for your friendships as you should be? They require “tender loving care” (TLC). Take time and make the effort to tell your friends you appreciate them. If you are lacking in quality friendships, perhaps you need to put more effort into your present relationships or seek new ones. There are those “out there” looking for friends. You cannot find each other, if you are not out there willing to look for and find each other.

Wisdom: It is not so much our friends’ help that helps us as the confident knowledge that they will help us.  Epicurus

Spiritual: (NIV)

Cast your cares on the lord and he will sustain you; he will never let the righteous fall. Psalm 55:22

Come to me, all you who are weary and burdened, and I will give you rest. Matthew 11:28

Now faith is being sure of what we hope for and certain of what we do not see. Hebrews 11:1

There is nothing like a best friend. The best friend we can ever have is God. He does care for us; He only wants the best for us; and is worthy of our trust in every way. He will never abandon us or forsake us. He cares for us so much; He willingly gave up his life for us. The most important thing we can ever do in life is in having such a relationship with God. Having God as a best friend calls for us to step out in faith and ask Him to be our friend.

Prayer: Help me to be better a better at being a true friend.

 

 

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