Boundaries

LSplit Rail Fenceimits, restrictions, rules, regulations, self-limits, that which contains us

Knowledge once gained casts a light beyond its own immediate boundaries. John Tyndall

Self-image sets the boundaries of individual accomplishment. Maxwell Maltz

What I know for sure is this: You are built not to shrink down to less but to blossom into more. To be more splendid. To be more extraordinary. To use every moment to fill yourself up. Oprah Winfrey

A boundary can be described as a limit or restriction. There are all kinds of boundaries that can be said to apply to our lives. We can describe them as coming in three basic categories: There are boundaries that seem natural and universal. An example is that we seem to be bound in time. We cannot “at will” move forward or backward in time. Then there are the boundaries set for us by society. Examples are laws, taboos and restrictions. They limit what we can and cannot do. Then there are the boundaries and limits we set upon ourselves. We can call these self-limiting boundaries. They really exist only because we either allow them or want them to exist.

As we grow, mature and experience life, we establish the boundaries within which we live and exist while trying to feel relatively secure and comfortable. This is called living within our comfort zone. On one hand a comfort zone is a good thing. It gives us a safe and secure base of operations. On the other hand, a comfort zone sets boundaries and limits which keep us where we are and restricts us. Typically, most of us do not voluntarily venture outside of our comfort zones. “Outside the comfort zone” represents the unknown, the uncomfortable and entails taking risks. As we grew and developed we replaced childhood fears should as monsters and darkness with adult-type fears: such as embarrassment and fear of failure and rejection. These fears trap and enslave us within the confines of our safe and secure comfort zone. It is the exception and not the rule for us to willingly dare to step outside the known. We fear the “unknown” and choose to avoid it. It is hard to grasp and understand how our limiting boundaries stunt our growth and development. We must overcome our self-limiting boundaries.

The well-known definition of insanity tells us that if we continue to do what we are already doing then we will continue to get what we are already getting. This describes our lives pretty well. If we are well entrenched as “couch potatoes” within the walls of our comfort zone we do miss out on much of what we could be experiencing. We bypass life-rewarding experiences because we do not engage life as we should. We will get more from life by “choosing” to engage in what it is offering us.

Challenge: In many ways most of your boundaries are self-imposed. This makes you mostly responsible for your lot in life. You tend to get from life in proportion to what you put into it. By allowing yourself to be contained and restrained with the walls of your self-created and maintained comfort zone you are choosing to miss out on much of what your potential and opportunity is offering you. Dare to step out and fully engage life.

Wisdom: Dreams have always expanded our understanding of reality by challenging our boundaries of the real, of the possible. Henry Reed

Spiritual: (NIV)

The fruit of righteousness will be peace; the effect of righteousness will be quietness and confidence forever. Isaiah 32:17

You need to persevere so that when you have done the will of God, you will receive what he has promised. Hebrews 10:36

I can do all things through Christ who gives me strength. Philippians 4:13

Faith and confidence goes along with courage. The more we believe we can succeed the more energy we can have to go forward into the unknowns of live. The more we do and experience, the more knowledge and wisdom we acquire, and the better our lives should become. The lack of growth does enslave and imprison us. Having a personal relationship with God opens the door of our prison. God frees us and empower us to more fully live life.

Prayer: Help me to overcome my doubts, fears and limiting beliefs. Help me to fully engage in life.

 

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