Hesitation, difficulty, reluctance, or inability to make up one’s mind; inability to choose, indecisive
Indecision is the seedling of fear. Napoleon Hill
The risk of a wrong decision is preferable to the terror of indecision. Maiminides
Four steps to achievement: Plan purposefully. Prepare prayerfully. Proceed positively. Pursue persistently. William Ward
Inability to make decisions is a serious problem. It can be an on-going malady that shackles us. Being unable to decide, commit, or follow through can cause much frustration. We should commit to becoming better at it.
It is good to be able to make decisions. The majority are made subconsciously or automatically. Some decisions are “no-brainers”. Some decisions are very trivial. Standing in line at a fast food counter, and not be able to decide speaks for itself. The effort we put into decision making should be in proportion to the importance and consequences of that decision. Important decisions require our best efforts, even these require that we can overcome indecisiveness. A good adage having to do with some types of decision making is that sometimes “it is easier to ask for forgiveness than it is to seek permission”. Make a decision and commit to it.
One common reason for being unable to make a decision is ‘the fear of making the wrong one.’ Living in fear is a curse. Many people are plagued by all kinds of fears. Living this way is a form of self-torture. Making wrong decisions is a part of life. It is a part of our learning process and the molding and shaping that goes on to make us in to what we are. Some of the decisions we make will turn out to be the wrong ones. We must live through these experiences and learn from them. The goal is to continually get better. Another “no-brainer” is that the more we are experienced at decision making, the better we should get. Many of the decisions we will make will be correct ones. We do get a sense of affirmation and positive assurance when we make good decisions.
The potential consequences of our decisions will normally be the most important factor to consider. The process is to evaluate, consider and then decide. Give it your best. Get as many of the facts and details as reasonably possible. Get advice from those that have knowledge. Weigh consequences. What are the pros and cons? Imagine possible outcomes. What is the worst that could happen? If we can contemplate the absolute worst that could happen, and this is something we can live with or overcome, then we are prepared. Go ahead, make a decision. Part of life is the freedom to make choices. Decide to decide!
Challenge: Are you able to make decisions? Do they come easy or difficult? Once you do your homework, can you then arrive at a decision? If yes, good! If no, promise yourself to overcome being indecisive. Learn to be decisive. Practice on easier decisions. Hold yourself accountable; make yourself decide. Decide to decide. As you get better at the smaller decisions, larger ones become easier. They may never be easy. But you will manage.
Wisdom: Take time to deliberate, but when the time for action has arrived, stop thinking and go in. Napoleon
Trust in the Lord with all your heart and lean not unto your own understanding. Proverbs 3: 5
For God did not give us a spirit of timidity, but a spirit of power, of love, and of self-discipline. 2 Timothy 1:7
I can do all things through Christ who gives me strength. Philippians 4:13
Fear, lack of faith and confidence hampers us throughout life. If we knew we could not fail, imagine how we could live life more dynamically and proactively. This kind of confidence is available to all of us. God stands ready to give us the tools we need to live life this way. All we have to do is to ask. He will provide. He wants us to live with courage, power, and strength. If we know God always has our back, why should we fear?
Prayer: Help me to have the faith and confidence to live the life You intend me to live.